ou know, when this happesn to children I balme the parents and when this happens to adults I blame the adults, I do NOT blame the WT,
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I DO blame the WTS when an adult dies for THEIR cause. Why? Because for many people born into the religion that become adults, the ability to toss away the brainwashing they have been part of for their entire lives, is impossible. It is not simply a matter of saying 'just do it' or 'i did it you can too'....people and their emotions and abilities are complex and individual...the structure of belief/fear/guilt is similar to the structure of fear/gulit that is imbedded into the minds of children who are abused and for whom many, many, remain never get out emotionally or mentally.
When I hear this sort of statement, I am constantly reminded of so many statements and conversations that I have heard over the years when a story hits the news about spousal abuse and the comments from a portion of society is always the same 'she could have left - she should have'. It is very complex and not so very simple and when I hear that, I always feel that the victim is being blamed again on so many levels for being victimized. It's like the comments a JW will say when a woman is raped as she walked past a bar - 'well, what was she doing walking there'...'she shouldn't have been wearing that blouse'..' she asked for it when she talked to those guys'......the sort of statements that today, account for a high number of women never coming forward to admitting they were the victim of this sort of crime.
I always feel sad at the lack of understanding.....but that's just how I see it...sammieswife.