wow, that has to be a jolt to your psyche to have such an unbalanced assault made to your relationship..... i hope you all are settling down after the fact
i have to tell you tho, as a parent of a child with a mental health diagnosis, that it sure smacks of borderline personality behaviour..... idealizing a relationship, especially an unattainable one with a high drama potential.....
absolutely refrain from engaging! once you cross any boundary of contact, all bets are off...... drama is the goal.....
i suspect this individual believes what she is thinking, but that is HER issue, and not yours...truly it is an unbelievably "brazen" intrusion into your lives....
hope it dies a speedy natural death