"He was influenced by a former Bethelite turned apostate.. All I know is that until my brother got mixed up with apostates our whole family was serving Jehovah. Apostates and my brother made it out to be this huge deal He's proud of the fact that he's an apostate.. I guess not all of you consider yourselves apostates."
You seem to be really focused on negative labeling. This won’t help you with your brother, by the way. Not sure if you need this negative reinforcing because you’re insecure, or you’re just angry and you want to get "even"? Maybe you’re secretly questioning your faith, and you feel that using the "apostate" phrase keep’s you safe? Don’t know. I just think you’re just pissed, and saying the word apostate over and over makes you feel better. You better get past that.
If you’re really interested in maintaining a working relationship with your brother, I would suggest you leave these kinds of knee jerk expressions out of your conversations with him, if you haven’t already done so. People who are recently out of the Watchtower Society are typically hurt and alienated by such expressions. Of course, those of us that are seasoned see it as weakness and we think its kinda funny. Just so that you know, mainstream Christianity considers those who have fallen away from the true faith (ala the Watchtower Society, LDS, etc.) to be the apostates. Kinda depends on your perspective, eh? Personally I could care less. It’s all a bunch of religious mumbo-jumbo anyway. What’s important is family, not religious fervor. Too many families have been torn asunder by people’s so called dedication to their "faith". I can tell you, that as one who has been involved over the years with literally hundreds of broken and destroyed families (including my own) regarding the Watchtower Society (and it’s shunning ‘policy’), that it is the JW who turns his back on his loved one, not the other way around. Of course, the JW doesn’t want to accept his responsibility in this matter and therefore blames family break-up on the one who decides to leave the group. I suppose there are those who have left the Watchtower Society and who have become so disenchanted with it that they may have cut themselves off from everyone that was associated with their former faith system, but that hasn’t been my experience. You want to keep your relationship with your brother? Then swallow your religious pride and love him despite that he may not share your particular faith and belief system. Respect his choice and his path that he has chosen. Anything else, is just so much bullshit.
What’s more important to you, your brother or the Watchtower Society? You decide. It's YOUR choice.