alshello.
i'm a practicing jw.
finally decided to create an account to see whether you could all help me.. so i am engaged to this wonderful wonderful man and in three months time we'll be married.
listener,
thank you so much for your reply. thanks for not judging anyone.
yes, my fiance and lately i feel guilty because we think we're covering important facts.
i am not sure whether i am going to talk to elders again.
part of me thinks it's enough, but my fiance does not agree.
i am very upset because you're right, this should be one of the happiest times in my life yet i've been feeling nothing but sadness.
alshello.
i'm a practicing jw.
finally decided to create an account to see whether you could all help me.. so i am engaged to this wonderful wonderful man and in three months time we'll be married.
the last two days have been awful. we met with the elder who's giving the wedding talk and he "warned" us ther's going to be courship conduct question.
in the mean time i posted a question on members only- adult? and heated debate.
i am in doubt and confusin when i read the article i mentioned there.
is there anyone here who wants to honestly read the question and objectively give opinions (no wtbts always confusing etc)? is it possible that they 're changing policies and theres a new light?
i wanted to paste the article but my blackberry can't do it
alshello.
i'm a practicing jw.
finally decided to create an account to see whether you could all help me.. so i am engaged to this wonderful wonderful man and in three months time we'll be married.
thanks everyone.
what i havent mentioned, my fiance sometimes feels that it's all over, meaning he doesnt need to tell the elders all the details.
however, he still feels the guilt, i think this is what "overly punitive conscience" is.
he keeps on saying "i still respect you and love you but the watchtower says we will lose respect..."
it's confusing me and worse, affecting me.
anyone here has similar experience?
does intimacy even sex before marriage ruin it all?
thanks
alshello.
i'm a practicing jw.
finally decided to create an account to see whether you could all help me.. so i am engaged to this wonderful wonderful man and in three months time we'll be married.
also, what's with joseph and mary? is there any scriptural basis for the claims above?
alshello.
i'm a practicing jw.
finally decided to create an account to see whether you could all help me.. so i am engaged to this wonderful wonderful man and in three months time we'll be married.
thanks for all the responses.
sometimes i feel guilty too because what we did is unclean in god's eyes.
alshello.
i'm a practicing jw.
finally decided to create an account to see whether you could all help me.. so i am engaged to this wonderful wonderful man and in three months time we'll be married.
hi everyone.
thanks for not judging me and for all the supports.
here's the thing that bugs me the most: i know i could be very happy with him if it was not for his conscience. :(
my question about sexual immorality is crucial here.
he is very bothered because he thinks the elders wouldn't have been so lenient if we told them about the petting. i said toucing breasts is more or less the same. if i could convince him abt this, he'll be less guilty.
alshello.
i'm a practicing jw.
finally decided to create an account to see whether you could all help me.. so i am engaged to this wonderful wonderful man and in three months time we'll be married.
@iownmylife he's not cancelling the whole thing. he blames himself and he thinks every bad things the wtbts said (loss of respect, trust, etc) are going to happen to us. his guilt is eating him alive.
he loves me very much and keeps on doing amazing things and makes me laugh. but his conscience is bothering him and it's wrecking him, me, and eventually us.
alshello.
i'm a practicing jw.
finally decided to create an account to see whether you could all help me.. so i am engaged to this wonderful wonderful man and in three months time we'll be married.
thanks everyone.
@dnccall what do you mean by "practicing"?
i am not a native speaker of english so that may explain a lot of unusual terms i am using.
the thing is, i thought spending the night with him is considered as a bigger wrongdoing according to jw.
i really really can't risk the elders dong something embarassing to us. they let us go with a counsel and thats all i need. my jw family is going through a very difficult time and i think they're all going to be depressed even suicidal if they deal with the shame.
sorry. i'm using my phone so typos happen and of course i hit the submit button before writing anything.
i made a longer post under the same name. deleting this one. please cheack the other one. many thanks, all.
alshello.
i'm a practicing jw.
finally decided to create an account to see whether you could all help me.. so i am engaged to this wonderful wonderful man and in three months time we'll be married.
alshello. first of all, i'm new here. i'm a practicing jw. finally decided to create an account to see whether you could all help me.
so i am engaged to this wonderful wonderful man and in three months time we'll be married. problem is, he's getting all guilty and depressed because we did some "heavy petting". we work together and one night i stayed over at his office and it happened.
we went to the elders and tell them about the sleepover and him toucing my breasts but we left other intimate details.
now he thinks we lied and even felt guiltier than ever. he even said we'll start our marriage on a rocky basis. i am starting to believe him too.
please help me convince him! i don't want my marriage to be awful because wtbts said so. :(
the bigger problem, i start having doubts about jws, but he doesn't. :(
p.s. what is sexual immorality by jw standard (esp. the one that should be reported to the elders)? all this time i thought it's porneia, homosexuality, and the like but not "uncleanness". guess i was wrong.
also, the elders told us we broke jehovah's law by touching intimate parts. i'd always thought porneia is breaking his law, uncleanness is breaking principles, so it's of a lesser gravity and seriousness.
guess i am a confused jw after all.
thoughts?
thanks!!
