hit my posting limit and am using my second account..... i don't know if anyone can help or not.. but i am in a desprate situation whereas i have to swallow my pride and seek out some help.. i am behind rent as well as my morgage ( i own a moble home on a lot rent).. need food as well.. phone needs to stay in service since i am deaf and need it as part my text communication for hopes of landing a better job.
sister can email me to let me know if a employer calls, so i can drive over and find out what's up from there.. i work at wal-mart and alot of us have our hours cut to 20+ hrs a week, so this is hurting me fianacially.. job hunts is hard since i am deaf since most employers seems to prefer hiring a hearing person.. i know of a deaf friend who is unemployed and he went thru 20 job interviews in a month.
none of them ever called or emailed him to say he got a job.. family can't help since they all have their own problems to deal with.. i can post all the info you need if anyone needs it, such as my landlord's address and my morgage address if anyone wants to mail a check directly to them.
I hope so restrangled, I really really hope so.
Yes, both of are very stressed out over this problem. My wife's been crying alot. I can tell when I see one of my cats starts looking down the hallway as they know something is wrong and I leave to go check on her to see her in tears. I'm consoling her alot because she's scared to death of what may happen to us.
Yiz
hit my posting limit and am using my second account..... i don't know if anyone can help or not.. but i am in a desprate situation whereas i have to swallow my pride and seek out some help.. i am behind rent as well as my morgage ( i own a moble home on a lot rent).. need food as well.. phone needs to stay in service since i am deaf and need it as part my text communication for hopes of landing a better job.
sister can email me to let me know if a employer calls, so i can drive over and find out what's up from there.. i work at wal-mart and alot of us have our hours cut to 20+ hrs a week, so this is hurting me fianacially.. job hunts is hard since i am deaf since most employers seems to prefer hiring a hearing person.. i know of a deaf friend who is unemployed and he went thru 20 job interviews in a month.
none of them ever called or emailed him to say he got a job.. family can't help since they all have their own problems to deal with.. i can post all the info you need if anyone needs it, such as my landlord's address and my morgage address if anyone wants to mail a check directly to them.
Camero-d, thank you.
Some people get their jollies poking fun at someone's demise, especially now they are poking fun at my wife's demise and laughing when my wife cries. People can be very cruel to people, especially when one has a disability.
Anyone care to poke fun of my wife's picture?
Yiz
hit my posting limit and am using my second account..... i don't know if anyone can help or not.. but i am in a desprate situation whereas i have to swallow my pride and seek out some help.. i am behind rent as well as my morgage ( i own a moble home on a lot rent).. need food as well.. phone needs to stay in service since i am deaf and need it as part my text communication for hopes of landing a better job.
sister can email me to let me know if a employer calls, so i can drive over and find out what's up from there.. i work at wal-mart and alot of us have our hours cut to 20+ hrs a week, so this is hurting me fianacially.. job hunts is hard since i am deaf since most employers seems to prefer hiring a hearing person.. i know of a deaf friend who is unemployed and he went thru 20 job interviews in a month.
none of them ever called or emailed him to say he got a job.. family can't help since they all have their own problems to deal with.. i can post all the info you need if anyone needs it, such as my landlord's address and my morgage address if anyone wants to mail a check directly to them.
Like I said, some people can't let go of a mistake.
I'm not asking anything, did I just do that now? Some people can't see through the forest for the trees.
All I ask for is advice and moral support. Nothing more.
Nice try on rubbing in a mistake I made, I've made my apologies and moved on. Can you move on?
Yiz
hit my posting limit and am using my second account..... i don't know if anyone can help or not.. but i am in a desprate situation whereas i have to swallow my pride and seek out some help.. i am behind rent as well as my morgage ( i own a moble home on a lot rent).. need food as well.. phone needs to stay in service since i am deaf and need it as part my text communication for hopes of landing a better job.
sister can email me to let me know if a employer calls, so i can drive over and find out what's up from there.. i work at wal-mart and alot of us have our hours cut to 20+ hrs a week, so this is hurting me fianacially.. job hunts is hard since i am deaf since most employers seems to prefer hiring a hearing person.. i know of a deaf friend who is unemployed and he went thru 20 job interviews in a month.
none of them ever called or emailed him to say he got a job.. family can't help since they all have their own problems to deal with.. i can post all the info you need if anyone needs it, such as my landlord's address and my morgage address if anyone wants to mail a check directly to them.
Seems that I've learned when peeps get out of a cult, they hang on to one of the bad habits that peeps still hang on to post cult exodus. Gossiping and OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder).
I made a bad mistake in the past, doesn't mean the story remains the same. I've learned about that. But this isn't about me, it's about my wife. Period. She's in a bad situation that is effecting all of us.
You guys learned to gossip about your fellow JWs that results in their disfellowshipping and the gossips continues post DF. Some developed OCD as a result, kissing up the Elder's ass when nosing around other people's business and squeal on them to the elders and gloat when a member gets kicked out of the congregation, all in the name of "keeping the congregation clean" browning points.
I don't do that to people here or anywhere for that matter. Some peeps with OCD have a hard time letting go of people's past and dredge it up however and whenever they can. They just can't let go.
I've already let go and moved on, I suggest the same for everyone else.
Yiz
this morning, i came to discover in great shock that my wife's ssd has been stopped.. yesterday, i noticed her ssd wasn't automatically deposited as it usually does every 3rd of the month.. .
this morning i checked again and it still wasn't there.
so i got on vp and called to inquire what's going on with her ssd.
Money that she could have avoided of having to repaid if her ex-husband allowed her to report her income and job gain, but didn't because the freak wanted ALL of the money and threatened to beat her if she did report her job gain to SSA.
Not only that he had threatened to beat her, he already did beat her on MANY occasions and even locked her in the bedroom and took away her wheelchair so she couldn't get out.
His favorite part of beating is a metal rod on her left amputated leg stump. He even beat her while she was pregnant with her son.
He even molested his daughter while drunk (we don't know how many times he's done this and my step daughter still refuses to talk about it. My wife never knew this until she spilled the beans one day during an argument about house cleaning, it just came out all of sudden and she clammed up since then. All she said was "he molested me many times while he was drunk and while you were out working.")
I have a gadzillion stories about what my wife has told me he's done (and I wanted her to talk about it because I knew how messed up she is and wanted to help her and the best way to do it is to get it all out of her chest and she's improving emotionally and mentally a whole lot. Although it doesn't stop her nightmares entirely, but it has been reduced dramatically. I've tried the same thing with the kids, but they refuse to open up. Prolly because I'm not blood and a "stranger that entered into my wife's life." so they're pretty relunctlant with me. I even tried to get them to see counsolers, but they refused as well. They're adults now, out on their own and all we can do for them is pray for them and hope for the best.) but I'll leave it at that so you know what my wife has dealt with. I'm sure she's not alone in this world, especially for some here on this board.
One more thing, we finally had a "family meeting" last year on Thanksgiving. I suggested that since after the episode with my step son that we need to talk about family problems, get it out in the open. I suggested we do this every year on this holiday, gather in a circle and talk about ANYTHING we that we feel comfortable enough to talk about.
My step daughter opted out and sat outside in the front porch in the whole duration. But we're hoping she'll participate this coming Thanksgiving. They're asking for my step son to join us this year. I'm a little relunctlant because of his violent behavior. They assured me if he starts having a episode, they're will remove him personally and he won't be back in the following next year. I told them I will think about it. So the meeting went well and they had already known about my step daughter whom has been molested, she's staying with my wife's cousin and she is trying to work on her to open up. This will take time, I guess. My wife told me 2 weeks after the meeting even thought at first she wasn't thrilled with the idea, but told me she's glad we all did it and looks forward to this coming Thanksgiving. Ya know what? I'm gonna ask my sister and her family to come.
If that is, we get get this SSD crap straighten out first. I just hope we don't end up homeless. But I'm trying to stay away from that negative thinking.
Yiz
this morning, i came to discover in great shock that my wife's ssd has been stopped.. yesterday, i noticed her ssd wasn't automatically deposited as it usually does every 3rd of the month.. .
this morning i checked again and it still wasn't there.
so i got on vp and called to inquire what's going on with her ssd.
Oh also, I did manage to track this loser whom my wife was married to and found him on this website.....
http://www.indianasmostwanted.com/warrant/02.530877
I told the Senator about him and he owes somewhere between 20k to 50k in child support payments that he has never paid. The Senator is aware of what he did to my wife and the mess he put her into. That's money there that could very well resolve the BS that my wife is dealing with. I doubt we'll ever see a penny from him, but at least the Senator has been made aware of it.
In this county that we live in, there's no warrant for his arrest for the lack of child support payments. This county is noteriously known to be too lenient towards criminals. For example, last year a child molester got off with 6 years probation for molesting a 13 year old child, whereas the next county East of us, a child molester got slapped with a 60 year sentence in prison. This sort of crap is too common here in my county all too often.
Yiz
this morning, i came to discover in great shock that my wife's ssd has been stopped.. yesterday, i noticed her ssd wasn't automatically deposited as it usually does every 3rd of the month.. .
this morning i checked again and it still wasn't there.
so i got on vp and called to inquire what's going on with her ssd.
Glad you were able to see that I am getting very good advice Deceived.
Yes, I posted for advice and suggestions from this board and the alldeaf board. That's it. For someone to eggaterate that I am posting on ALL forums w/o checking for FACTS first, well, you know what happens when someone does that.
I got a email reply from a Senator and he emailed me a permission form for me to fill out so he can investigate my wife's case and I sent it back to him along with a copy of my Power of Attorney and stated if he needs anything else, just ask and I will provide it.
I will be going to the SSA office on Tuesday morning, I've arranged for a nurse to be here at 10 AM so she can stay and watch for my wife while I am gone. Couldn't do it yesterday because she's only gone to dialysis for 4 hrs and I'm afraid I won't make it back in time to help my wife get back on her medical bed. In my experience being in a SSA office (plus it's a 45 min drive from here), long waits happens there.
So I hope I can get this crap fixed and everything will be back to normal.
Yiz
this morning, i came to discover in great shock that my wife's ssd has been stopped.. yesterday, i noticed her ssd wasn't automatically deposited as it usually does every 3rd of the month.. .
this morning i checked again and it still wasn't there.
so i got on vp and called to inquire what's going on with her ssd.
Snoozy,
He's still out there on his own. The prosecutor's office has decided not to pursue the case. He did have a job, working at Wendy's. But he quit a few months later. He never stays on a job for very long. He misses work too often.
He sees his mom per se the entire family that worked out an agreement on holidays and birthdays. That's it. Works for me, works for them.
Yiz
this morning, i came to discover in great shock that my wife's ssd has been stopped.. yesterday, i noticed her ssd wasn't automatically deposited as it usually does every 3rd of the month.. .
this morning i checked again and it still wasn't there.
so i got on vp and called to inquire what's going on with her ssd.
BizzyBee, I do not side with anyone but my wife at this very moment. Family comes first.
Diana, can you read?
Thanks
Yiz
this morning, i came to discover in great shock that my wife's ssd has been stopped.. yesterday, i noticed her ssd wasn't automatically deposited as it usually does every 3rd of the month.. .
this morning i checked again and it still wasn't there.
so i got on vp and called to inquire what's going on with her ssd.
While some are so obsessed with my past mistakes here on this website, some just made up their mind that I am this and that. I'm not going there as I have no interest in my past mistakes. What's past is past, I'm only going to move forward, whether anyone likes it or not. I'm only asking for moral support, advice, suggestions and most of all, prayer. That's it.
Got a tip from a deaf forum who knows what I should do and given a link to this....
http://www.ssa.gov/online/ssa-632.html
I'm gonna try this out and hope this works out. I may try the approach to offer SSA the opportunity to raise the monthly payment taken out of my wife's SSD each month, at the current rate, it's $50 a month take out of her SSD. I'll try the $75 a month approach, if this will work out for them.
Tried to get some sleep, too worried. I took some Tylenol PM to see if that'll help.
Wish me luck,
Yiz
