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  Where is everyone from?

  by God is Dead in

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  i know some of you are hiding, but i am curious as to how far around the world everyone on here is from.

  i am in sask, canada.

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  oldcrowwoman

  I am from the land of 10,000 lakes~~~~~~~~~~~~Minnie-soda, Minnie-No Where

  (Minneapolis, Minnesota) South of Canada !!
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  Ending Relationships

  by oldcrowwoman in

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  "it takes courage and honesty to end a relationship---with friends, loved ones, or work relationship.. sometimes, it may appear easier to let the relationship die from lack of attention rather than risk ending it.

  sometimes it may appear easier to let the other person take responsibility for ending the relationship.. we may be tempted to take a passive approach.

  instead of saying how we feel, what we want or don't want, or what we intend to do, we may begin sabotaging the relationship, hoping to force the other person to do the difficult work.. those are ways to end relationships, but they are not the cleanest or easiest ways.. as we walk this path of self-care, we learn that when it is time to end a relationship, the easiest way is one of honesty and directness, we are not being loving, gentle, or kind by avoiding the truth, if we know the truth.. we are not sparing the others's feelings by sabotaging the the relationship instead of accepting the end or the change, and doing something about it.

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  Sorry Happy whatever you posted does'nt show up. square box with x in the cornor.

  The other piece for me with ending or not ending relationships hits my abandonment issues. I personally don't deal well with people going away and not say anything. I can handle it when its direct. I may not like hearing but I can respect it. And move on.

  I've had experiences those feelings on this site. All of sudden a person I had a connection with leaves and not knowing why they left. With certain people allowed myself to be vulnerable sharing parts of my story. I have to work on myself with my shame. I realize it has to do with their stuff.

  But it does'nt change the feelings.

  This thread is an ongoing issue with me. I had mentioned before, I am closing with a 8 yr relationship Womyn's spirituality group. Eight years is a long term relationship. I have received many gifts and healing over the years. Its time for me to move on.

  I have a meeting with one who orignated the group. To check when its a good time to pull every one together to make the closure. This is a huge piece for me right now. I have alot mixed feelings. Saying good bye is never easy.

  Old Crow
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  minnesota Twins

  by oldcrowwoman in

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  minnesota twins beat the new york yankee's 3- 1 .

  old crow .

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  Minnesota Twins beat the New York Yankee's 3- 1

  

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  Ending Relationships

  by oldcrowwoman in

  1. watchtower
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  "it takes courage and honesty to end a relationship---with friends, loved ones, or work relationship.. sometimes, it may appear easier to let the relationship die from lack of attention rather than risk ending it.

  sometimes it may appear easier to let the other person take responsibility for ending the relationship.. we may be tempted to take a passive approach.

  instead of saying how we feel, what we want or don't want, or what we intend to do, we may begin sabotaging the relationship, hoping to force the other person to do the difficult work.. those are ways to end relationships, but they are not the cleanest or easiest ways.. as we walk this path of self-care, we learn that when it is time to end a relationship, the easiest way is one of honesty and directness, we are not being loving, gentle, or kind by avoiding the truth, if we know the truth.. we are not sparing the others's feelings by sabotaging the the relationship instead of accepting the end or the change, and doing something about it.

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  In my past my way was this John Wayne image riding off into the sunset and leave relationships up in the air. No closure.

  True their relationships that have faded for me. An those for me lack of committment or maybe it was'nt healthy for me.

  There are no right or wrong way in endings. Whats important for me is closure and I prefer it to be clean on my part. People who come into my life were teachers, to teach something about myself. They are mirrors of self.

  Old Crow
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  Getting Over it.

  by shamus in

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  2. scandals

  i just wanted to let everyone know that i want to get on with my life and my feeling sorry formyself additude.

  i am going to learn from the past, and press ahead.

  this may have come to some of you... how did you get tired of living out the past and getting on with life after the dubs?.

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  ((((((Shamus)))))

  For me the building blocks were therapy, treatment for alcoholism, sobriety support group, and various support groups for abuse issues. Gave me tools to work with in life. To be quite honest if I had'nt taken responsibility for self. I would not be here chatting with you today.

  Always seeking ways to empower myself. The biggest one was participating in the SilentLambs march in New york. Sharing my story, breaking jw laws like walking into churches, taking $5.00 to a casino. And the machine took it. lol but the sky did not fall in on me!! Supporting others. Donating money for exjw causes. Spreading flyers for SilentLambs. The list goes on !!

  Shamus sounds like you are channeling your energy in the right direction. I admire your spunk !!!!

  Old Crow

  
  
  
  
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  Ending Relationships

  by oldcrowwoman in

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  2. beliefs

  "it takes courage and honesty to end a relationship---with friends, loved ones, or work relationship.. sometimes, it may appear easier to let the relationship die from lack of attention rather than risk ending it.

  sometimes it may appear easier to let the other person take responsibility for ending the relationship.. we may be tempted to take a passive approach.

  instead of saying how we feel, what we want or don't want, or what we intend to do, we may begin sabotaging the relationship, hoping to force the other person to do the difficult work.. those are ways to end relationships, but they are not the cleanest or easiest ways.. as we walk this path of self-care, we learn that when it is time to end a relationship, the easiest way is one of honesty and directness, we are not being loving, gentle, or kind by avoiding the truth, if we know the truth.. we are not sparing the others's feelings by sabotaging the the relationship instead of accepting the end or the change, and doing something about it.

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  "It takes courage and honesty to end a relationship---with friends, loved ones, or work relationship.

  Sometimes, it may appear easier to let the relationship die from lack of attention rather than risk ending it. Sometimes it may appear easier to let the other person take responsibility for ending the relationship.

  We may be tempted to take a passive approach. Instead of saying how we feel, what we want or don't want, or what we intend to do, we may begin sabotaging the relationship, hoping to force the other person to do the difficult work.

  Those are ways to end relationships, but they are not the cleanest or easiest ways.

  As we walk this path of self-care, we learn that when it is time to end a relationship, the easiest way is one of honesty and directness, We are not being loving, gentle, or kind by avoiding the truth, if we know the truth.

  We are not sparing the others's feelings by sabotaging the the relationship instead of accepting the end or the change, and doing something about it. We are prolonging and increasing the pain and discomfort--for the other person and ourselves.

  If we know it is time to terminate a relationship, say that.

  Endings are never easy, but endings are not made easy by sabotage, indirectness, and lying about what we want and need to do.

  Say what you need to say, in honesty and love, when it is time. If we are trusting and listening to ourselves, we will know what to say and when to say it."

  Today, I will remember that honesty and directness will increase my self-esteem. Help me let go of my fear about owning my power to take care of myself in all my relationships.

  "The Language of letting go by Melody Beattie"

  Old Crow
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  Worst Pet Peeve

  by Dimples in

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  so what annoys you the most?.

  i can't stand when people don't use their turn signals and then jump in front of you and make you slam on your brakes.

  i try to refrain from road rage but i do cuss under my breath.

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  Hey Berylblue~~~~~ I am one of those slow slow slow elder person LOL!

  I dislike telemarketers. I've never bought a product over the phone. I explain having a phone for 40 some years and not buying anything. Trying to get a word in edge-wise. I think they like to hear themselves talk. Certainly does'nt win me over.

  Old Crow
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  Hey Hey Hey I got me some wheels

  by Lady Lee in

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  hubby thinks i am nuts because i am thrilled with this.

  he says it represents disability.

  i say it represents freedom.

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  (((((LadyLee))))

  " If there is a will. There is a way"

  Glad you are taking care of yourself!!!

  Old Crow
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  In memory of my uncle John who died last Sunday

  by justhuman in

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  in memory of my uncle john who died last sunday

  when i had a phone call that my uncle died just before i got on stage, i sat for a moment and i was looking my guitar.

  in those moments i saw my life passing by, and the days that i have spend with my uncle and cousins in summer holidays at our village in the mountains of greece.

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  oldcrowwoman

  My condolences goes out to you dealing with your loss.

  OldCrow
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  Who has tried.....

  by fairy in

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  who has tried recipes from the first cookbook that ladylee put together

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  oldcrowwoman

  Sorry I don't have the cookbook.

  OldCrow