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  Kitty Litter Cake

  by Lady Lee in

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  the perfect halloween cake.

  kitty litter cake.

  serving size: 24. .

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  Oh my .!!!

  Looks exactly like my litter box!!!! LOL

  Love your creativity (((LadyLee)))

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  Conflict

  by oldcrowwoman in

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  " fortunalely psycholanalysis is not the only way to resolve inner conflicts.

  life itself still remains a very effective therapist.".

  " the passage of time, coupled with an openess to the messages gleaned from our conversations with others, can provide answers we need for the way out of painful situations.

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  Conflict from "Each Day a New Beginning"
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  Conflict

  by oldcrowwoman in

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  " fortunalely psycholanalysis is not the only way to resolve inner conflicts.

  life itself still remains a very effective therapist.".

  " the passage of time, coupled with an openess to the messages gleaned from our conversations with others, can provide answers we need for the way out of painful situations.

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  " Fortunalely psycholanalysis is not the only way to resolve inner conflicts. Life itself still remains a very effective therapist."

  " The passage of time, coupled with an openess to the messages gleaned from our conversations with others, can provide answers we need for the way out of painful situations. Life is ebb and flow, peaks and valleys, struggles and sweet times. What we fail to realize, all too often, is that the struggles make possible the times that are sweet.

  Our conflicts are our speacial lessons in life. We can learn to flow with them, move through them, trust their value to us as growing, changing people. How good it feels to have found security with one another and that power greater then ourselves who can, when we are willing, show us the path of resolution.

  Life will never be free of conflict---nor should it be. Our lessons move us to higher planes of awareness. We can experience the joy hidden within the conflict. We can help one another remember that the sweetness of a moment is tied the of a former, forgotten moment.

  All events, all experiences, are connected. The path I travel, alone and with others, is bringing me brighter days. I will trust my path. It's right for me."

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  Things Learned Along the Way

  by blondie in

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  i have collected sayings, homilies, whatever along the way that crystallize something bigger i learned.

  i will post a few every day.

  if you have one, please share it.. if you lie down with dogs, you'll get up with fleas.. to belittle is to be little.. somewhere, i got the idea if i just took care of others, i would be taken care of.. blondie

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  "Birds of a feather; Flock together"

  
  
  
  
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  Obstacles

  by oldcrowwoman in

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  "it isn't for the moment you are stuck that you need courage, but for the long uphill climb back to sanity and faith and security" -----anne morrow lindbergh.

  most of us are on a long uphill climb at this moment.

  it is a climb we are making together, and yet a climb we can't do for each other.

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  "It isn't for the moment you are stuck that you need courage, but for the long uphill climb back to sanity and faith and security" -----Anne Morrow Lindbergh

  Most of us are on a long uphill climb at this moment. It is a climb we are making together, and yet a climb we can't do for each other. I can reach out my hand to you, and you can grasp my hand in return. But my steps are my own, just as you, too, can only take one step at a time.

  For brief periods we skip, even run, along the uphill path. The rocks and the occasional boulder momentarily trip us up. We need patience and trust that the summit is still achievable. We can help one another have patience. We can remind one another to trust.

  We look back at the periods that devastated us so long ago. And now we are here. We have climbed this far. We are stronger, saner, more secure. Each step makes easier the next step--each step puts us on more solid ground.

  I may run into some rocks or even a boulder today. I have stepped around them in the past. I will do so again."

  "Each Day---A New Beginning"

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  I SEE A BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!! (rayzorblade)!!!!!!!!!!!

  by Jesika in

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  rayzorblade

  post 2845 of 2845. from 12-jan-03.

  birthday!.

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  Rayzor !!!!

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  A Secret--No Longer--Jgnat turned over another year yesterday

  by blondie in

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  jgnat, a little bird told me that your birthday was yesterday.

  happy birthday!!!!!!.

  blondie

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  Jgnat happy birthday to you.

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  Are you a Bright?

  by Abaddon in

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  another neologism... .

  ... just as the homosexual community took a term and used it for their own purposes, so that scientific designations and insulting words were derailed, so to a group of people believe that humanism/atheism et.al.

  needs such a term.

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  Yes I am bright, witty and charming~~~~!
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  After-Burn

  by oldcrowwoman in

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  even though i meant it, i still feel ashamed, guilty, and afraid.".

  "this common reaction to new, exciting recovery behaviors.

  anything to do with owning our power and taking care of ourselves can trigger feelings of shame, guilt, and fear.

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  I had a follow up to the post. Always when I am done expounding the puter freezes up and knocks me off!!! It happens in the evening.

  It helps to be able to name what I am feeling. I experienced the After-Burn last week. Confronting a co-worker. Who was under-mining my job. I am and so is the ER dept. deal's with her inappropriate and toxic behaviors. She did'nt own her part and told if she wanted to take over the main desk. She's welcomed. I was so angry. I walked away.

  These kind of behaviors has been going on for 3 yrs now. Kinda like living in a bus station. In the past she has gone to anger management and communications classes.

  I work in a dysfunctional environment. So some days its hard to keep one's head above water.

  Talking with my Head Nurse. She knew I was hot. Kept to how I feel. This is the straw that broke the camels back. I can not tolerate her behaviors. I feel its abusive. For the most part lack of respect towards other and how they are treated.

  So the key word that perked the Head Nurse ears was ABUSE. I was not going to tolerate her abuses anymore.

  Head Nurse confronted her. Told her that she needs to go back to anger management and 2 other classes. In the future if there is one complaint. She's out the door.

  Yes I felt the After-Burn, questioning myself. I felt empowered to express my feelings and when its direct. Take responsibility for how I feel.

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  After-Burn

  by oldcrowwoman in

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  even though i meant it, i still feel ashamed, guilty, and afraid.".

  "this common reaction to new, exciting recovery behaviors.

  anything to do with owning our power and taking care of ourselves can trigger feelings of shame, guilt, and fear.

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  "How could I do it?How could I say it? Even though I meant it, I still feel ashamed, guilty, and afraid."

  "this common reaction to new, exciting recovery behaviors. Anything to do with owning our power and taking care of ourselves can trigger feelings of shame, guilt, and fear.

  We do not have to allow these feelings to control us. They're a back lash. They're after-burn. Let them burn out.

  When we start confronting and attacking feelings and messages, we will experience some after-burn. The after-burn is what we allowed to control us all our life---shame and guilt.

  Many of us grew up wuth shame-based messages that it was'nt okay to take care of ourselves, be honest, be direct, and own our own power with people. Many of us grew up with messages that it was'nt okay to be who we were and resolve problems in relationships. Many of us grew up with the message that what we want and need is'nt okay.

  Let it burn off. We don't have to take after-burn so seriously. We don't let the after-burn convince us that we are wrong and don't have a right to take care of ourselves and set boundaries.

  Do we really have the right to take care of ourselves? Do we really have the right to set boundaries? Do we really have the right to be direct and say what we need to say?

  You bet we do."

  "The Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie