I am a recent elder who stepped aside... it wasnt the truth about the truth that caused me to step aside. I just felt that there was no way in the world I could sit in front of a 50 year old man crying to me because he watched some porn 6 or 7 times and then telling him we would remove his previledges that he worked years to get. I asked him did he asked God for forgivenee said yes and that he felt so much better and relieved...
Yet he was crying because now he has to wait for us 3 bozo's to apparently deliver the punishment god wants... I thought to myself, "Why can't we just ask god for forgiveness... then move on?" That is when it hit me that something just isn't right.
Then all of a sudden everything else started happening as I mentioned in other threads about actually analyzing what we believe. So I think for most elders who leave it is because they realize they are in no way capable of deciding how someones life should turn out