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  Does anyone know what this is?

  by Tameria2001 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  yesterday my sister cut her foot on a piece of metal that was sticking out of my yard.

  i've lived in my home for almost 8 years now, and well i'm guessing this thing must have worked it's way up to the surface or something, never seen this thing before.

  i started to dig it up, and the thing just kept getting bigger and bigger.

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  I ended up getting $5 for that and the rest of the junk metal that was in my shed. All I had to deal with that day was all the spiders and ants. lol
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  Does anyone know what this is?

  by Tameria2001 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  yesterday my sister cut her foot on a piece of metal that was sticking out of my yard.

  i've lived in my home for almost 8 years now, and well i'm guessing this thing must have worked it's way up to the surface or something, never seen this thing before.

  i started to dig it up, and the thing just kept getting bigger and bigger.

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  Yes it took three of us to carry the thing to the back yard, I'm planning on scrapping it. Before me was one other person who owned this home, and before that it was part of some farm land (about 15 years ago), but it is now a residential neighborhood.
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  Does anyone know what this is?

  by Tameria2001 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  yesterday my sister cut her foot on a piece of metal that was sticking out of my yard.

  i've lived in my home for almost 8 years now, and well i'm guessing this thing must have worked it's way up to the surface or something, never seen this thing before.

  i started to dig it up, and the thing just kept getting bigger and bigger.

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  Thank you very much, I'll let my sister know this, mystery solved.
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  Does anyone know what this is?

  by Tameria2001 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  yesterday my sister cut her foot on a piece of metal that was sticking out of my yard.

  i've lived in my home for almost 8 years now, and well i'm guessing this thing must have worked it's way up to the surface or something, never seen this thing before.

  i started to dig it up, and the thing just kept getting bigger and bigger.

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  Yesterday my sister cut her foot on a piece of metal that was sticking out of my yard. I've lived in my home for almost 8 years now, and well I'm guessing this thing must have worked it's way up to the surface or something, never seen this thing before. I started to dig it up, and the thing just kept getting bigger and bigger. I even called the water company, because I wasn't sure if it was something that belonged to them or not. I didn't want to take a chance of digging up something that would cause bigger problems. So with the help from my brother in law and a guy from the city, they manged to dig up this thing, and I don't even have a clue to what it was at one time. Does anyone have any ideas what this thing is?

  
  
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  Easier to be a JW now?

  by Xanthippe in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  reading konceptual's account of talking to cart 'witnesses' and it reminded me that when we left in '89 we thought the religion would do one of two things.

  get more hardline, consequently lose members and eventually come to an end in some way.

  or ease up on the members, fewer rules, less fs time, less meetings, just to keep them in.. all the recent apostate stuff, treatment of dfed kids and the hardline attitude to people who leave or try to fade has confused me, made me think they are harder on the r+f., but i don't think this is true.

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  To me the JWs reminded me of a yo-yo, or a pendulum, going back and fourth on what they taught, what you could get kicked out for. One moment it's ok not to scream if one is being raped, while other times if one did not do it they would be dealt with harshly. The same for the blood issue. There were times it was ok to do certain things medically wise, and other times those very same things were a huge NO NO.

  I too was one of those dummies that was a regular pioneer for a number of years putting in between 90 to a 120 hours a month, mainly because the 120 was making up for other times that I didn't quite make my quota with the hours. I was a dummy because I was just too honest in reporting my hours, looking back I just wished I would have said I put in the 90 hours... it wasn't like they paid me for my time wasted back then.

  Talking about the decision on wither or not to scream when a rape is happening, I remember this one woman who was married and had some children. On this one night (her husband worked nights), this guy broke into her home, while she was sleeping, and raped her. She made the decision not to scream, because she did not want to wake up her children, and to possibly cause them harm. After he did his deed, he left, and she had called the police. Some time later, another woman in her neighborhood was also raped by the same man. But that woman was killed. They asked him why he did not kill his first victim, but he murdered the second. His reply was the first woman did not scream. When the second woman screamed, he was hoping for that to happen because he got some sick kind of pleasure out of it, and that escalated to a blood lust. He did say that if the first woman would have screamed he would have happily murdered her and her children that was in the home. But her punishment was not over with the JWs, she was ultimately disfellowshipped. I don't think I'll ever forget hearing about that.
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  When you were fully in, did you believe that you would not die?

  by TTWSYF in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i know that it must seem silly to ask, but my brother and his family think that the big a will arrive before they die.

  i tried to explain to my brother that everyone else who has ever lived in the past has died and only jesus has [physically] rose from the dead.. it is amazing that anyone could buy that line.

  what crazy cult culture that could make people believe such nonsense?!.

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  When I was fully in and completely believed what they were telling me....I did not think I was going to survive the big A. Even when I was a regular pioneer, putting in 90 plus hours, a member of the electrical crew for building kingdom halls (did that for a number of years), giving talks (the ones they allow for sisters, you know those 5 minutes ones), and doing my all, I still did not feel like I was going to survive. As a JW, I could never forgive myself for things I had done way in the past. You might be wondering what I had done, well it was nothing more that what things kids do, nothing that would require any attention from the elders, but still, I would feel guilty about stupid stuff.

  I remember going from door to door, and I would have several people tell me (and these were people who weren't JWs), that the past is the past and I just need to leave it there, because there is nothing I could do to change the past. The past is dead and gone, and it was time to move on. It was only after I left the JWs was I finally able to do that.
  
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  What do you think would have happened to you if...

  by LevelThePlayingField in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  you found out about ttatt way back in the 70's or maybe the 80's (basically before the internet) and you thought that you were all alone in this knowledge?

  what do you think would have happened to you?

  no jehovahs-witness.com, no john cedars, no arc, no jwfacts.com and no crisis of conscience to fall back on.

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  I wouldn't even want to think about what or how my life would be different without the aid of the internet. I do know one thing for sure, I would have been a widow. I say this because my husband was on the verge of committing suicide, because all the unnecessary crap that his JW relatives and certain elders were putting him through. The only reason he did not, was because I knew (from personal experiences) what to look for, and it took some preventive measures to keep him from doing something so permanent. I am so glad those days are far far behind us.
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  fading/holidays

  by Drifting Away in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so for those that are fading, i have been fading for almost 6 months now.

  havent been to a meeting, assembly, service, etc.

  i no longer believe it is the truth.. how long did you wait before celebrating holidays, if in fact you are even celebrating them.

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  I want to say something about myself. I abruptly left the JWs back in 2001. I sent in my letter of dissociation (along with my husband). My reasons was because I had discovered just too much about it, that was false. Anyways, that very first year (and the next few years after) I did all the holidays. I was raised in that group, so I guess I was making up for all the years as a child that I missed out on it. Anyways, after the newness of it wore off, the holidays are something that I do struggle with, and not for the reasons I was taught in the JW religion. When it comes to your wife, only she will be the one to decide on when and if she will ever be ready, one can not put a time limit on things like this. She might eventually feel comfortable, or this might be something she'll always have issues with.
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  I need help, I'm falling in love with a JW girl

  by nebula-- in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  so i met her at my last job that i worked & we started off as friends.

  i didn't know her faith at the time & i honestly couldn't have cared less, seeing as i'm agnostic.

  after about a year, i began developing emotions for her & sure enough, we ended up dating for a little while.

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  I have one simple little three letter word to say to you......RUN.

  After the newness of the relationship wears off, and everyone settles into who they really are, it's not something you'll want to be around, much less any children the union might produce. They will be the real victims on being force fed JW doctrine. I had horrible night mares as a child, because of the crap they talk about at their meetings. I finally walked away when it affected my own son when he was little.
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  Why THAT talk? Why NOW?

  by dubstepped in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  in another thread there's a discussion about how the show must go on and meetings weren't even slowed down by the deaths or medical emergencies of ones in the audience.

  for instance, one young brother's unbelieving father was murdered locally.

  not long afterward he's assigned a part on an assembly about the resurrection or something.

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  Oh man, this is something I DO NOT miss one bit. It seems like they are very lacking in tact when it comes to this. I can recall three very emotional talks that just tore me to the very core of my being. (You know those little 5 minute ones they give the sisters.)

  The first one for me was I was 16, and had just attempted suicide. This was after years of sexual abuse by my father (not a JW by the way). Shortly after that I was given a part about a wife's duty towards keeping her husband happy. After seeing that, I nearly had a nervous break down, and my mother asked me what was wrong. I handed her the slip of paper. After reading it, she walked over to the elder, and told him that she would be doing the talk instead of me. At first the elder told her no. She told him that he would either allow her to do it, or he would have to find someone else to do the part. By the way I was not baptized at the time.

  The second was this, there was a family that I was really close to, and had baby sat their children from time to time. One day the son had just bought this older car that did not have any seat belts in it. He took the car out on a dirt road, and lost control of the car. It then rolled, throwing his sister out the window, and as a result the car rolled over her and killed her. She was only 12 (I think) at the time. A little while later they had the visitation, and I went to it. A couple hours later it was time to go to the meeting. I told the elders I was in no shape to give a talk, but they wouldn't hear of it, and forced me to do it. My mom forced me to go to the meeting, and told me that I would DO my part. She didn't believe in quitters. I don't remember what that talk was about, but I can say this for sure, it was the worse talk ever given. I had it done in less than 2 minutes. When the elder who assigned me this part tried to counsel me on it, I stopped him and told him this, "I warned you that I was not in any frame of mind to be doing this, but you insisted."

  The third was this. It was winter time, and this talk was not one that I was assigned, but one that was popped on me at the spur of the moment. At first I didn't want to, but again my mom insisted that I do it, so I did. I went ahead and threw something together, but I don't think anyone paid attention to what I was actually saying because for that meeting I was wearing a very large, very bright orange sweater. I couldn't take it off either, because I only had my under garments on under it. lol Oh yes, my skirt was bright blue, with bright red shoes.

  That outfit really paid off, because that was the last time any one ever asked me to do something at the last moment. lol