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  Advice on children

  by Apostating in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my ex-wife got married in december last year.

  so our visting arrangement with my children has changed.

  there was a misunderstanding in our visiting arrangment, we agreed on that they would spend the weekends (once in two weeks) with me they would stay until sunday.

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  happy@last

  I really feel for you and don't know what to suggest. However, as you are still and will always be an equal parent to your children you still have a say in their upbringing. If I were in your situation I would take legal advice and not allow the precious time you have with them be invaded by anyone else, and I would certainly never take them to any JW meetings.
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  Avoid or call them back?

  by Angus Beef in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  daughter missed a call from an elder tonight...we've missed meetings for about a month now.

  she is dating a worldly guy and i'm sure someone has seen them together.

  makes us nervous and with us being fairly new to the fading facet... should she call or avoid.

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  happy@last

  Another one here saying avoid. Of what concern is it to them!
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  Uk bethel "university campus but nicer"

  by snare&racket in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  new essex bethel plans include.... "its accommodation, predominantly for young members, would resemble a university campus but "nicer".

  erghhhh..... don't become a lawyer or an engineer, a doctor or a nurse or a teacher.... come spend 3 years working for us at our factory for free.

  look we have wifi...(no porn!).

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  happy@last

  http://www.essexchronicle.co.uk/Jehovah-s-Witnesses-plan-UK-HQ-county/story-20479709-detail/story.html

  this newspaper article is lacking comments...

  There are some comments now
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  its time i say howdy

  by lildev in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  thank u for all who post on here jwfacts and ex jw utubers.

  u have really helped me to see the truth about the truth.

  i da`d last summer.

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  happy@last

  Welcome, glad you are free. Think of it as part of your learning curve, hope you are not too scarred from it, many here were in for decades.
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  Ok I need some advice on how to decline an elder's appointment....

  by suavojr in

  1. jw
  2. friends

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  in the last 4 months my eyes have been opened to ttatt, my biggest issue is that the elders have been grooming me to appoint me as an elder.

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  happy@last

  There is no 3 year rule, as to how to say no without being 'detected', just say no thank you as I feel I can serve the congregation better in my current capacity and feel being an elder would put on too much stress on me and my family at this time.
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  Promotion! Woo!

  by Laika in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  praise jah, my awake education must have finally paid off.

  no more living from paycheck to paycheck for me!

  what a relief.

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  happy@last

  Well done
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  UK Family Law re child custody where one parent is a JW and the other is not

  by Frazzled UBM in

  1. social
  2. family

  for those who are interested i came across this case relating to a dispute about how much exposure a jw parent could give her child to the jw'religion'.

  the case is interested because it shows how much weight the courts put on freedom of religion and the right for a parent to expose the child to their religion provided the religion is 'socially acceptable' while also being mindful of the impact on the child's welfare.

  i think the judgement is quite naive in its assessment of the potential harm and spends to much time concentrating on blood issues and birthdays and christams and not enough on the wbts techniques for recruiting and manipulating members while they are vulnerable children.

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  happy@last

  In that paragraph the point I would highlight is the same point about the child's welfare, not the social aspect but the techniques that are used by the mother's religion to control their thoughts, behaviour and emotions. These are detrimental to the child's welfare, and are what I would highlight.

  I would be very interested in how this goes as I suspect I will be in the same position soon.
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  Can you imagine the organisation ever doing this?

  by Dis-Member in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  chicago archdiocese releases child sex abuse fileshttp://rt.com/usa/chicago-archdiocese-child-sex-abuse-976/.

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  happy@last

  If you mean Watch Tower Bible and Tract Society then no I cannot see them ever doing this, they prefer smoke and mirrors.
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  The music that moves you....

  by FlyingHighNow in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  once when i was profoundly sad for too many days, my brother in law sent us a mix tape.

  he named each song after a person in our family.

  this is the one he named heather.

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  happy@last

  http://youtu.be/1G4isv_Fylg
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  I Am Home Today With A Lousy Back Ache

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my lower back went out again.

  typically, once every 9 months, i get a terrible spasm that can last for days.

  right now, i am icing it but i am so sore!

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  happy@last

  I get back problems too, I use a good osteopath as nothing else works for me.