I tried marking a congregation member who matched all the criteria in this article.
The elders made my life absolute hell.
I kept all spiritual contact, but no social interaction due to my inlaws non christian activities and life style.
Guess what, he was made an elder.
When everything REALLY hit the fan and it was revealed PUBLICLY what he was involved with, I got no apology and was still treated like dirt by the elders that appointed him - god how I hate this sham religious cult!!