so, my mother is still in.
last night at my parents home she starts in with me on how she is going to ask my sig other to the memorial (puke), and that i should not forbid her to go.
we went round and round about how the jw's are bs, gave many examples and it always came back to some twisted circular reasoning, that i still do not fully understand.
Sinus wrote:
It pisses me off when people (family included) stick their nose in shit thats none of their business!!!
Parents do that.. They really think they are doing something good..you have to remember that. People need to speak for themselves..the idea that the mom thought the husband had control over the wife and could stop her from going doesn't say much about him!
Just saying...
Snoozy, who CAN speak for herself..and did!
so, my mother is still in.
last night at my parents home she starts in with me on how she is going to ask my sig other to the memorial (puke), and that i should not forbid her to go.
we went round and round about how the jw's are bs, gave many examples and it always came back to some twisted circular reasoning, that i still do not fully understand.
Peaches said:
not for nothing, your mom with all due respect needs to mind her business, your the head of the house and it should be what you say. you need to sit down with your wife and have a serious conversation about how you are feeling towards her going to the memorial or whatever. and i agree with you 100% a divided marriage is not good at all. just my 1 cent
And lifesgood wrote:
According to the Bible and the WTBTS the husband has headship over the wife. Your mother cannot make a decision affecting your wife. Only you can do that.
What century are you guys in?
Sinus wrote:
I think anyone who says this is a means to control has blinders on, or themselves have not lived through the "divided" household, with all due respect.
As far as a divided household goes..you have no idea! I was in one for over 30 years..I was a witness for 15 before that.
Snoozy..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ungpowan4as.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qnyytrrzmxa.
i would be terrified!.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ungpowan4as.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qnyytrrzmxa.
i would be terrified!.
I dare you to watch this all the way through.. Too intense!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JNw8vIK1G_4
Snoozy
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ungpowan4as.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qnyytrrzmxa.
i would be terrified!.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ungpoWAn4As
and this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QNYyTRRzmxA
I would be terrified!
Snoozy
so, my mother is still in.
last night at my parents home she starts in with me on how she is going to ask my sig other to the memorial (puke), and that i should not forbid her to go.
we went round and round about how the jw's are bs, gave many examples and it always came back to some twisted circular reasoning, that i still do not fully understand.
I get offended when I read about others discussing how to treat a wife..she is a grown up, let her decide.
And why did your mom feel the need to warn you other than to stir the pot?
Think about it..if your wife "Didn't say too much" sounds like she does not have a open line of communicaiton with you..something you may want to work on.
Sounds like you may be a little controlling and she is afraid to open up with you? You may end up pushing her into the religion if you try to push..
Also, when talking with a JW it is better to try and stay on one or two subjects rather than going all over the map..that way it is easier to make a point. And be prepared..nothing worse than throwing things out without backing them up like they do!
Hope your wife makes what we feel is the right choice!
Snoozy
our public talk and wt study is on saturdays.
i was informed by an elder that i shouldn't leave right away after the meeting.. immediately i had a sinking feeling in my stomach.
but not as bad as i would have felt about it months ago.
I'll keep you posted when I send in my DA letter and if I ever hear anything back
Make sure you make a copy of your letter for yourself!
Snoozy
my two oldest brothers, jim and ron, were coerced into baptism when they were but 10 and 11 years old.. .
they were indoctrinated heavily, of course, and they tried to toe the line and be good little jw boys as best two unruly fatherless boys could.
the nature of a boy won out and they both got into some mischief about a year later.
I saw the same thing happen to my husbands JW sisters two boys..both ended up being disfellowshipped. I wonder if your brother ever went for counseling? It surely would have helped with the guilt weight he carried.
I am so sorry for the loss of your brother..I know you must have a lot of pain. Was he a good brother?
My husband had a pretty bad childhood also it seems. He never spoke of it to me but his cousin who was practically raised with him told me many stories of what his Mom and grandma put him and his cousin through. It was pretty bad. Of course his Mom later went on to become a judgemental witness that never did anything wrong in her life..
I was so glad that this cousin came forth after my hubby died and told me the many stories. It made me better understand why my JW hubby did/said/acted like he did at times.
Again, so sory for your loss..
Hugs, Snoozy
edited to add: Concerning the pictures..they kind of turned my stomach because I too made my 3 children pose like that with the literature showing in a picture to send their non JW great grandma..so sad..
because of the other news stories, i don't know if this one got enough air time.
an international raid on boylover.com , catches criminals and sets children free.
it "shocks my conscience" that there is such a thing as child pedophilia rings, and that they are so well coordinated.
12 days to vacation and I'm leaving the country... and I won't be thinking about Jehovah's Witnesses. :-))
Randy
Is this of your own free will? (JK) Where you going? My daughter is in Madrid right now and loving it. Only thing is if their college student spanish speaking son isn't with them (He's going to college there this year) they are screwed..they know no Spanish..
Snoozy
because of the other news stories, i don't know if this one got enough air time.
an international raid on boylover.com , catches criminals and sets children free.
it "shocks my conscience" that there is such a thing as child pedophilia rings, and that they are so well coordinated.
suspects in this operation are aged between 17 and 82 and come from all walks of life. They include police officers, scout leaders and teachers."
Glad to see they admit this..I have been saying for years that the Boy scouts is a pedophile paradise! I am surprised about the Police and Teachers though.
So glad they are catching some of the perverts..I wonder if it just seems like the whole world of men are becoming perverted or is it jsut because of the large population that makes it seem that way?
In my opinion this is one of the results of our anything goes, if it feels good do it society..
And I still think we should ship all the pedophiles to a isolated deserted island and let them live/work/survive amongst themselves..
Snoozy
