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  It's been a long 9 years Lloyd Evans / John Cedars

  by Newly Enlightened in

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  "When the person you're criminally suing for defamation..."

  Does he understand what he wrote? lol
  
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  It's been a long 9 years Lloyd Evans / John Cedars

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  ForeverAlone: I was thinking that they could hire Croatian lawyers to try to counteract what LE's lawyers are possibly doing unchallenged by any defense representation.

  I don't think they need to. Keep in mind that, since this is a criminal case, the local prosecutor must determine if he will allocate resources towards a case that will go nowhere. Getting judgments in a case like this is meaningless to the court and to the local jurisdiction. At best, they might rubber-stamp a piece of paper with no intent of following up, because they have limited resources and are not in the habit of indulging every idiot with a hang-up and a social media presence.
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  Tried to warn another mum

  by DarleneGatus in

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  the thing that broke me was that i tried to warn another mum in the congregation about a brother who was inappropriate with my son, which upset me, and so i called her to talk about it since we both knew him and i had also seen him pin her daughter down on the sofa and slap the girl's bottom.

  i called it inappropriate, but i never accused him of anything beyond that.. unfortunately, word got back to him and i had to go in front of 3 elders, including the brother who i felt had been inappropriate.

  because they came down on me for trying to stop the behavior, and not on him for being the cause of upset, i felt very hurt and started questioning more things.

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  DarleneGatus: I know that the above probably sounds very minor compared to what some have suffered

  Actually, what you are describing is what has happened to a lot of people and prompted them to leave or at least become PIMO. They expressed a valid concern and instead of being listened to, they were effectively harassed by elders who would rather pretend that child abuse is not going on in the congregation and are not interested in protecting children. I don't think it is very minor at all. I'm sad that people have to suffer through things like this. Good for you for trying and for seeing them for the terrible people that they are.
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  How Many Of You Knew Something Was Really Wrong Growing Up JW? What was Your First Clue?

  by Sea Breeze in

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  this is directed to born-ins.

  around age 10 or 12 is when it first hit me.

  i started asking questions about how the world worked and i really wanted an honest opinion from my parents.

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  I was born and raised in it and bought into it for a long time. I think what finally began to make me stop and think was when they would admit that obedience was more important than being right, using examples of people who were removed as apostates, only for the organization to adopt their views later on. And they would say it directly- the important thing was obeying the organization, more than being right about Biblical interpretation. Even though I told myself that this was right and okay, there was apparently some level of my brain that could not make that square peg fit into a logical round hole.

  Even so, I think I fought it until I finally came to the realization that I didn't believe in God. At that point, with the presupposition removed and giving myself the permission to think freely, lots of what they taught fell apart. It was at that point that I started to read stuff like CoC and learned that they'd been hiding all of their dirty laundry from us, and there was an astounding amount of it.
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  It's been a long 9 years Lloyd Evans / John Cedars

  by Newly Enlightened in

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  A prostitute is defined as someone who exchanges sex for money. To the extent that the term has a negative connotation, it is because the act itself of offering sex for money is usually seen in a negative light. I occasionally will use the colloquial term "hooker" although that term does imply more than just the business transaction and unfairly blames the woman who is offering something that men are willing to go to the street and pay for. I avoid the term "whore" since it takes that implication to another level, though I may occasionally refer to a person as a whore if I think it's an appropriate descriptor (ie, someone who offers up their dignity on the cheap- see "politician").

  The term "sex worker" seems to be an attempt to legitimize the profession, if you will. If we believe that prostitution is damaging and harmful to the people who are involved in it (frequently not of their own will), then legitimizing it with a less offensive description would seem to be harmful to them as well. I would not refer to enslaved or compromised people as "workers" in any other context, after all. I believe that there are contexts in which the term sex worker is appropriate, but using it to sanitize prostitution doesn't seem like one of them.
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  It's been a long 9 years Lloyd Evans / John Cedars

  by Newly Enlightened in

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  Debra: ...you not only regularly jet off to Thailand to cheat...

  Just to be clear, Evans told Kim that he had been seeing prostitutes for years, but not that he was traveling to Thailand to do it. The implication is that he was paying for sex in Croatia (and possibly the UK) for years. The trip to Thailand was, ostensibly, for his mental health. Treating his mental health apparently involved 'dating a sex worker.' Some may question the wisdom of getting your life in order by leaving your family at home to date a strange woman who sleeps with men for cash, but I guess we don't know what it's like to be poor, put-upon Lloyd Evans.

  In any case, I am sure he will try to use your post to claim that everything said about him is lies, so I think it's good to clear things up, and also to remind everyone of what he admitted to. And to also remind everyone that he's an inveterate liar and the stuff he admitted to has almost certainly been watered down and the reality is even worse.
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  It's been a long 9 years Lloyd Evans / John Cedars

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  Reading that, you'd never have guessed that this all started when he admitted that he was buying sex behind his wife's back and heading on an extended holiday to Thailand, a holiday that did not include the same family that he is suddenly very concerned about.
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  Hello I’ve just discovered that my religion is false just

  by Chickenlips in

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  just wanted to say hey.

  i’m in australia.

  i’ve just woken up… i’m disfellowshipped and finding it hard without family although i do have one sister who isn’t interested in the truth, so that’s good… at least i can talk to her.

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  My advice: start to reach out to people around you and getting to know them. It's not just the loss of family and friends that hurts us when we finally get away from the organization; it's also the indoctrination that causes us to push non-JWs away. Get to know people, make friendships based on more than just religious upbringing, and keep reminding yourself that they're ordinary folk, just like you. It can be a huge help in dealing with the sense of loneliness and loss.

  If you are still religious and believe in God, there may be a local Christian church that can help you to ground yourself by providing friends and a small but supportive social community. The JWs really do warp our sense of social structure, which makes it painful to leave. But once you have a support group, life can be very enjoyable! Good luck.
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  Toblerone5: Preocucupied with SPITTING?

  The rest of it reads "...into the wind."
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  1985 and baptism...I wish I had read this before today

  by enoughisenough in

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  i am posting a link as to being legally bound to jw rules at time of baptism.

  i only did a quick skim, but what i gathered is interesting, and what it says about 1985 may be of use to some hoping to just fade and not be bothered.

  in 1985, the questions were changed at baptism for legal purposes so they could have causation to defend themselves should you decide to sue for whatever reason.

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  DJW: though no one had asked me if I wanted to be a ministerial servant.

  When I was named an MS in 1995, they took me to a small room before they made the announcement, and asked if there was anything that would prevent me from serving in that capacity. I wonder if I could have refused the role at that moment? I guess I could have, although I was very happy to be granted the 'privilege' at the time. But that meeting, just a few minutes before the announcement, was all the notice that they gave me.

  I guess they want it to be secretive; they didn't want anyone telling people that they were going to be named. Why that would be an issue, I don't understand. Wasn't everyone excited about having more 'capable men' in the congregation?