They've been harping and harping on this subject lately.
''Don't associate with DF'd relatives."
"Don't communicate with DF'd relatives. Not even an email, now! Y'hear?"
"Hey! We said don't do that! What are you, deaf or something?"
"Listen you morons, if you soften on your DF'd loved ones, you are disloyal scum and we'll kick your a$$ to the curb so fast it'll make your head spin."
"Okay, okay, we'll try positive reinforcement since you don't seem to be getting the point. Robert, here, was deprived of familial love for 16 years before he cracked. See what good can come of unspeakable cruelty? If his family can do it (and notice we didn't mention that any of them were elders or otherwise better than your sorry a$$) you can do it too!"
What's next? "If you so much as nod at a DF'd relative you are in league with the Devil and we will burn you at the stake."