Kudos to having the gonads to tell your husband the truth
i was terrified to tell my wife, so much so that when I did I actually capitulated and stated "in"
i went the route of focusing on our family and marriage and my wife was amazed at what happiness we had without me being active or an uber-dub so she backed waaaay off and now we are very content living on the periphery of the religion.
despite this, I often wonder what would have happened if I had the balls to stand my ground
i have my reasons for doing what I did, but I commend you for standing your ground for your beliefs.