Sorry for the lost of your mother. You are lucky you had a good relationslhip with her for you to feel this great lost. Thinking about all the good things you did together will help all of you to heal. Take all the time you need to mourn. Take care of yourself. Again Sorry for all this pain. Totally ADD
TotallyADD
JoinedPosts by TotallyADD
-
51
This past weekend I lost my mom
by lola28 inthe cancer finally got to her and now my sisters and i are left without our mother.
we take comfort only in knowing that she is no longer in pain.
how do people move on from such a massive loss?.
-
-
-
18
When you were a JW did you dance " provocatively" ?
by highdose in" provocatively" of course meaning alot.
in my cong it meant moving your body in any way at all.. the spirtual ones of the cong of course would not dance and if they did would do a kinda slow motion running type dance.
totaly embassring to look at.. .
-
-
TotallyADD
Never had to worry about it. The congregation I was in as a teenager was very very old. I was the youngest at 16, my parents in their 50's next youngest the rest were in their 70's-90's. At my wife and I wedding the JW 5 band played polka music. Many of the old ones left saying it was a sin to dance and play music. I think they were mad they were not young anymore. Totally ADD
-
31
Morning Is Breaking ...
by snowbird init is about 5:15 in the am, cdt, here in alabama.. a bird is chirping; a rooster is crowing; the fans are humming.. i've got laundry and floors - i cooked on yesterday.. my daughter has kh meetings and brought-home work.. what about you?.
syl.
-
-
TotallyADD
Here is NW PA cloudy with fog on the mountian tops. Highs today only in the upper 60's to low 70's. Walked the dogs made cofffee and heated water for tea for the misses. Just moving here I am amazed how early the sun comes up this time of year. It's light outside by 5:30 am and last just after 9 pm at night. I guess I will pay for it in the winter. Grout the floor tile in our new bathroom today. Nice quite day. Totally ADD
-
62
How To Leave Jehovah's Witnesses Easily and Painlessly
by Daniel Metz ini have just thought of a way to leave jehovah's witnesses using information from the new shepherd the flock of god book.
it's quite simply: rebaptism.
here are the steps:.
-
-
TotallyADD
Welcome to the forum Daniel Metz. Sounds good. But I think it will not be painless. To many questions would be asked. You have to make sure you are up on your game when going through it. This is one reason I now know personally this is a cult. The things and ideas people go through and come up with just to leave and live a normal life. I should not be that hard but the WT cult makes it that way. Thanks for the idea. Totally ADD
-
37
I had my first encounter with JW's at my door! I was called an apostate!
by Desert Rat inso, i am getting ready to move across the state.
we bought a home there, and have taken a couple of loads over, with the main move being this next week.
i went over this last week cause i wanted to paint the kitchen and dining room before we moved in (a lot easier to do without grandkids and dogs under foot).. anyway... here i am painting away when there is a knock on the door.
-
-
TotallyADD
Good job. We moved 1000 miles not to long ago and after being here now for a 6 weeks still no sign of a JW. Still waiting for our first visit. Totally ADD
-
24
Rutherford 1942 "Don't have kids till after Armagedon...Watchtower 2008 same advice!! Sick!
by Witness 007 ini was shocked to read in the "witnesses only" study watchtower this stupid rutherford policy was still in place, compare.. rutherfords last book "children" {ironic title} 1942 - page 281 "wait until after armagedon to bring children into the world...it is only afew years...until armagedon...those with infants will have greater woe...it will be a far greater difficulty to care for them during the tribulation...".
so if you were 20 years old in 1942 and waited......till 2011.....do the math.. wachtower 2008 april 15 p.19 "heading: "single and childless for a noble purpose.
" ...numerous couples have decided to remain childless...to remain free to serve jehovah...putting kingdom interests above some of the privledges that go with marriage...jehovah will not forget...there will be a great tribulation...it will be a difficult time for us adults and children alike...".
-
-
TotallyADD
This is one of the reasons children were looked down on in the congreations during the 50's - 70's. That is why so much abuse happened to children. No one cared in JW land. Children where 3rd rate people. Always in the way and show everyone that there parents did not really believe what the cult was teaching. I said 50's-70's because that seem to be a period of greatest child hating in the cult. I feel during the 70's were many converts were coming in with children already that thinking kind of subsided. Believe me I am not trying to minimize the pedophile problem this is probably why it is so bad in the JW cult even today. Totally ADD
-
-
-
TotallyADD
Where you talking to a 10 year old? This sounds like a alot of JW we knew through the years. Their brains don't work. The question that should be asked is " Hey all you athiests, try to deny this! I there is no God why are JW able to think since there is no oxygen getting to our brains. LOL Totally ADD
-
82
What DO I think about Glenn Beck?
by AK - Jeff ini think of myself as 'moderate libertarian' if i must attach a lapel card.
and i'm not sure that is entirely the correct one.. i endorse fiscal conservative thinking, believe in limited government, and a strong domestic defense policy.
in these areas, i could find myself in agreement with the talk show host.
-
-
TotallyADD
Everytime I have ever listen to Glenn Beck I felt like I was listening to a talk at the KH. His reasoning is full of cult mind control language. I always get a sick feeling hearing about him. I also wonder what is his agenda is behind some of his nonsense? I know its money but what else? I know alot of people who really like what he has to say. To me he could become a very dangerous man if he got any power. Totally ADD
-
20
Wish I Would Have Left Earlier
by EmptyInside ini know everyone's situation is different.
and no matter what age one is when they finally say enough of the religion,it's difficult.. but,from what i have observed among my friends,it appears that those who left in their teens/early 20's fare a bit better.. my two close friends who were disfellowshipped in their teens/early twenties,seemed to do fairly well with the transition.
of course,i know they went through a great deal of pain to get where they are today.
-
-
TotallyADD
Been there doing it now. I agree with leavingwt, don't look back. You can not change the past. But you can change the future for good or bad. I have found to many times it is not easy but is worth all your energy in doing so. Keep moving forward. If you fall pick yourself up and continue to move forward. That is all any of us can do. Wish you well and truly enjoy and adventure in time it will get better. Totally ADD
-
27
~Moving forward..searching for a good therapist~
by freeflyingfaerie inalright, that's it!
after writing this, i am on a serious search for a good therapist~.
i've been coming here on and off for a little over a year now(wish i had found it sooner) ...for validation and clarity in my feelings about how hurtful the religion is...so i don't feel so alone about it, and so i don't feel like i am losing my mind~.
-
-
TotallyADD
Good luck in your moving forward. Even though I am a guy I went to a therapist for about a year and a half. It really help me alot. I read a book many years ago before going into therapy go to one of the 10 steps programs first. This gets you into a mind set for more intensive therapy latter on. I wish I would have done that first. Also it is always good to have a close confidant to us as a sounding board when in therapy. Talking about your problems always make you feel better. I hope this will help you out a little and again good luck in your endeavors. Totally ADD