Same thing happened to me...I was a witness and got married to a non witness who was studying in NY. We had been married 4 months and we decide to visit my witness father in GA. He was totally cool with what I did etc. Since we got married at a justice of the peace in NY he wanted to have a little wedding reception. So he spent money on invitations and lots of money on food, drink etc. No one in the hall in Atlanta said a word about it. All was going according to normal. Then 2 days before the Elders have a meeting and decide to not attend. They convinced the servants to do so too. We were expecting 150 people. 22 showed up.
That is just one of many bricks that built the house for me to leave the cult.