Posts by notverylikely

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left and now lost

by serein in

im luke warm and dont know what side im on, i dont mix well and i dont want to be worldly if u know what i mean,im a good person with morals and nowadays thers not many of us left., not were i live anyways,its so hard leaving it behind cos now i duno what to do with myself, and i dont want to go out and live it up or go on face book or go meet loads a worldly people and be like everyone else, and i dont wana celebrate pagan hols even thoe i might do xmas i still feel weird doing that.i dont feel right with myself one bit..

notverylikely

What cofty said.

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new veiw on biblical stories

by jam in

i recently heard that a large number of us citizen are not affiliate with any religious.

org.

i beleive because of the outrageous stories in the bible.

notverylikely

A new understanding of the Bible is needed.

It's probably because CTR got ONE thing right, religion is a snare and a trap. And the bible has had so many views it's not even funny. They all lead to same dead end.

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left and now lost

by serein in

im luke warm and dont know what side im on, i dont mix well and i dont want to be worldly if u know what i mean,im a good person with morals and nowadays thers not many of us left., not were i live anyways,its so hard leaving it behind cos now i duno what to do with myself, and i dont want to go out and live it up or go on face book or go meet loads a worldly people and be like everyone else, and i dont wana celebrate pagan hols even thoe i might do xmas i still feel weird doing that.i dont feel right with myself one bit..

notverylikely

Oh sheesh. Really, grow up.

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Marital Due and the KS

by yknot in

i just did a 'quick' search and 'marital due' doesn't appear to have made the 'list' of issues addressed in the ks!.

did i miss something?????

shouldn't the blantant repeated refusal (not justifiable under illness, ability, or discernable reason) be an issue addressed?.

notverylikely

So sometimes it is men, and there is no reason for it.

Absolutely it can be men. And there is ALWAYS a reason. Either medical or psychologica (which can sometimes manifest themselves physically).

A dude that doesn't want it from a his hot wife has some issues.

Just speculating, though.

I think you are right on. There was a litany of reasons over the years and it never changed anything.

Something I read once that really got me to thinking, the person that refuses the sex is basically holding their made hostage when they use it as a tool.

And that, my friends, whether it is the man or woman holding back, is bullshit. Sex is not a weapon.

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did jesus really succeed where adam failed?

by booby in

why did jesus christ come to the earth?

the rebellion in the garden of eden brought a death sentence upon adam and eve and all their offspring, but god lovingly supplied hope.

he sent his son to the earth to provide what the bible calls a ransom.

notverylikely

Edited because I really don't want to get involved.

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Marital Due and the KS

by yknot in

i just did a 'quick' search and 'marital due' doesn't appear to have made the 'list' of issues addressed in the ks!.

did i miss something?????

shouldn't the blantant repeated refusal (not justifiable under illness, ability, or discernable reason) be an issue addressed?.

notverylikely

notverylikely...were you married to my ex-wife?!?

No, but soon I will have been married to MY ex-wife :)

I wonder how many married men Pioneer™ thinking that it's going to bring sexy back into their marriage? I'm surprised that the WTS hasn't tried to capitalize on this thought to improve the Pioneer™ statistics.

Yep. The WT, where ignoring your wife means she might want to give you some. Except that they have trained her from birth to think it's dirty. Catch-22, sucka!

(Technically that's not a catch-22, but still...)

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Marital Due and the KS

by yknot in

i just did a 'quick' search and 'marital due' doesn't appear to have made the 'list' of issues addressed in the ks!.

did i miss something?????

shouldn't the blantant repeated refusal (not justifiable under illness, ability, or discernable reason) be an issue addressed?.

notverylikely

Which is what happens when people have been made to feel ashamed of sex and sexual desire. Can't just order that all away by calling it marital due.

So, yeah, you are 100% right. One other thing I forgot is that I was told the lack of desire was because she felt I wasn't spiritual enough and that if she knew I was closer to Jehovah (meaning, the WT), then she would feel more like it. So, the position I was in was "This is BS, but if I want my wife to have sex with me, I have to basically live a lie and fake it."

So I faked it, did pretty well at it for a while, had a book study in my house, was responsible for a service group, had responsibilities in the congregation, was getting about 14 hours a month in service in, etc.

Didn't change a damn thing. At all.

Not excusing what I did, but that was a shitty position to be in.

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Marital Due and the KS

by yknot in

i just did a 'quick' search and 'marital due' doesn't appear to have made the 'list' of issues addressed in the ks!.

did i miss something?????

shouldn't the blantant repeated refusal (not justifiable under illness, ability, or discernable reason) be an issue addressed?.

notverylikely

That wasn't me. I wasn't pushing him to be anything.

Oh, I wasn't suggesting it was YOU. Apologies if that is how it read. I was just saying that I knew someone that wanted live a lifestyle like her husband made plenty of money, didn't want me, I mean, her usband to work the way you had to for it (but gladly spent every dime and planned to spend more), wanted me, I mean, their husband, to be a perfect dad, help keep the house clean, help weed the garden and keep the grass cut, spend at least 10 hours in service every month, do family worship night, reach out in the congregation, host congregation parties 3 times a year, perfectly understand her needs and never want sex except when she did 3 or 4 times a year in a good year, usually more like twice a year.

Her husband was a secret apostate at the time and wanting to fade. It was a recipe for disaster, especially when her complaints were that she had to get up, take the kids to school while at the same time getting ready for service since she was aux pioneering. My sympathy was low when the due wasn't rendered (despite protests that she was interested, just too tired) or that I wanted it too much and it turned her off, so I tried not acting like I wanted it, that led to many times going six months without. There was always a reason why it weren't happening and eventually I shut down because I didn't want to think things were looking up when she wanted to have sex twice in a week and feel happy only to feel crushed 5 months later when we hadn't done it since then.

She liked sex, but felt dirty about it and once said that she could probably go the rest of her life without it.

It was a recipe for disaster.

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Marital Due and the KS

by yknot in

i just did a 'quick' search and 'marital due' doesn't appear to have made the 'list' of issues addressed in the ks!.

did i miss something?????

shouldn't the blantant repeated refusal (not justifiable under illness, ability, or discernable reason) be an issue addressed?.

notverylikely

Wife ha done 4 loads of laundry and chased a couple of kids around all day, cleaned the house and prepared supper so husband can run in the door, scarf down a meal and then they rush to a meeting. When they get home he wants th edue and she is tired. Or has a headache - sometimes we do get them.

Exactly! The husband worked all day, got yelled at by his boss, had to deal with 10 pissy customers, was late to leave work because he's not got enough help and when when he gets home, his wife had done laundry that could have waited until the weekend when he could help but she decides to do it today and then complain about her decision and then he has to eat an unhbealthy half cold meal she threw together at the last minute so they could all make to to the meeting. Then when the get home late after the elders meeting (because she pushed him to be an elder because she wanted status when all he wanted was to watch the damn game) she complains that she is too tired even though the entire day has been exactly what she always wanted, an elders wife with 4 kids and cooking meals and being a spiritual housewife. Her husband HAD a heachache for the past 5 years listening to her, but still managed to keep a job and pay the bills and she can't be bothered to put out even though this was all her doing.

Seriously, it's all about perspective...

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The Undead - difference between Jesus and a Zombie

by Simon in

actually, not much .... .

http://graphjam.memebase.com/2010/10/31/funny-graphs-happy-holidays/.