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  Help! Leaving the WT and realizing I'm a social misfit!

  by 2pink in

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  so, i'm 30-something and have been a lifelong jw, born and raised.

  (yeah, i know double points against me on the social scale!).

  i'm on my way out (and moving at a fast pace with that, lol) and um, am now realizing that outside of the kingdom hall, i am a bit of a social retard!

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  kl2009

  Are you originally from WA state? I am wondering if we might know each other. I don't know how to pm..or even what that is, but let's talk some more.
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  Where were you????? Name the closest city to your KH!!!

  by restrangled in

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  chicago for me..

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  kl2009

  Seattle, Yakima all over WA...
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  ethical consequences of faking reinstatement...

  by drew sagan in

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  i know that there are enough of you out there who can add good points to this discussion, and i await your opinions.

  however, please be aware that i wish for you to take great care in your posts.

  i am not interested in haphazard responses.. so as to not give away too many details, i'll simply say that recent events have caused my in-laws to strongly desire my wife to fake a reinstatement.

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  kl2009

  I am so glad you posted this because it is probably the biggest thing that I struggle with. It is so hard to know the right answer..I have quite often thought about sucking it up and going to the meetings for a few months. I know that I would be reinstated quickly. However, when I think past the part of being able to visit freely with ones that I so desperately miss and love, I think about what I will be subjecting myself to. I have come a very long way to get to the point I am at. It has been a heartwrenching journey of self-discovery with my faith being shaken to the core. I have had to rebuild from the ground up, so to speak, to find out what type of person I am and what is important to me, not what someone tells me I should be. It is very difficult to live a lie. If you have any kind of integrity at all, you will be in a constant state of emotional turmoil. It is my opinion that we each have been given this wonderful gift of life. This one life and it is so precious. None of us know what is the future will bring or how long we have to enjoy it. All we know is what we have right here, right now. It is heartbreaking for any of us to be in a postion to even have to be faced with these situations that impact us so deeply, but it is what it is. The only thing we can do is make the choice to use the time we have wisely, surrounded by those who truly love us for who we are. If we squander this gift constantly trying to please other people, all we end up doing is hurting ourselves. Is it worth living a lie? Is it worth it to lower your standards and live under a false pretense for someone else's benefit? I am thinking, no.