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  Brief Explanation

  by joelbear in

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  my path needs to be revamped.. i do plan to have a serious discussion with elders and attend the kingdom hall.

  where that will lead, time will tell.. i am not leaving mitch.

  even if i did become a jehovah's witness and celibate again he would love me just the same and i him.. you cannot become ungay.

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  JBean

  Thank you Joel... we love you, don't forget that. Flower: please stay with us...things get better, although many times slower than we'd like. Jbean
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  Brief Explanation

  by joelbear in

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  my path needs to be revamped.. i do plan to have a serious discussion with elders and attend the kingdom hall.

  where that will lead, time will tell.. i am not leaving mitch.

  even if i did become a jehovah's witness and celibate again he would love me just the same and i him.. you cannot become ungay.

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  JBean

  Hi Joel... I hope you're still on the board to read my thoughts to you. I agree with everything everyone has told you on this thread... both positive AND negative ideas/arguments. I am still technically "in" ... but haven't attended meetings in a long while... my entire family is in also, and I cannot upset them at this point in time. HOWEVER... I KNOW that this organization is not based in truth. I think you do too. I think you know also, that if it is not ALL truth, it cannot be God's spirit directed organization. Joel, I don't understand how you think you will be able to still "be with" Mitch in any way, shape or form if you decide to go back. Anyhow... I do understand that this is your journey, and no one elses, and I wish you all the best. PLEASE check back and let us know how you are doing. Also, could you please answer Flower's question? She is going through a real tough time right now and I believe needs your honest reply. Thanks! Love to you! Jbean
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  for those who wondering too...

  by shecky2 in

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  this is a pic of me

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  JBean

  Best laugh I had all day... : )
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  For those who were wondering

  by SYN in

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  they'll stay anonymous...here is a pic of me taken recently, after a bad haircut (i was falling asleep in the chair at the time), for those who asked...have fun!.

  also, i'm testing image insertion in posts, so consider this successful if you see a piccie of me!

  and no, i'm no keanu reeves!

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  JBean

  Oh my God, Naeblis!!!! Who wear's the feather boas???? AHAHAH... a JW gal I know personally actually DID pose with one of those.... ahahahahahahh! Strange gal...
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  For those who were wondering

  by SYN in

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  they'll stay anonymous...here is a pic of me taken recently, after a bad haircut (i was falling asleep in the chair at the time), for those who asked...have fun!.

  also, i'm testing image insertion in posts, so consider this successful if you see a piccie of me!

  and no, i'm no keanu reeves!

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  JBean

  Oh leave the guy alone... : ) If he's lucky he'll make some (legal) $$$$ off of those looks!
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  For those who were wondering

  by SYN in

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  they'll stay anonymous...here is a pic of me taken recently, after a bad haircut (i was falling asleep in the chair at the time), for those who asked...have fun!.

  also, i'm testing image insertion in posts, so consider this successful if you see a piccie of me!

  and no, i'm no keanu reeves!

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  JBean

  Oh wow... why aren't you on the big screen????!!!! Real people don't really look like this, do they??? : )
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  Do I convert for him????

  by butalbee in

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  i am going totally crazy without him in my life.

  i miss talking to him for hours on the phone, i miss spending time with him, i miss being a part of his life.

  it was my decision to end things, and i know he still wants to be with me, but i am still torn to pieces.

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  JBean

  I totally agree with outnfree!!!!! Don't even THINK about getting baptized! Tell his family in no uncertain terms you are DONE with the bible studies and that you'd like to remain friends, but you are NOT interested in the JW faith. (See how long they'll stick around!)
  As for your guy: He CAN be with you AND MARRY YOU if that's what you both want. He WILL NOT be disfellowshipped because of this. The JW's CANNOT enforce a rule as to who you can and cannot be with (they try, but there's no scriptural grounds for it!) Tell this guy that he needs to look deeper into why he feels as he does and that it IS possible to take the relationship to the next level, it's HIS choice!!!! If he doesn't, then i'm truly sorry to say he does not love you as you believe he does. Period. I was married to a non-believer and it took a while for my family to "accept" him, but they did over the course of a few months and actually ended up liking him very much. I'm involved with a non-JW again now, and initially preached to him (about 1 year ago) with the sole purpose of trying to make it easier FOR ME... if he converted it would be soooo simple. But now, with all the stuff I'm learning here... I told him the other night that I'd NEVER preach to him again! : ) Jbean
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  hello all--new to board; my story

  by razorMind in

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  hello everyone...hope all are having a great holiday season.. ***warning--kind of long***.

  i am 31 and have been "out" for an undetermined # of years...probably starting as soon as i moved out of the house at age 23. i just "drifted away".. i was born into the jw faith.

  my parents remain devout and "zealous" to this day.

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  JBean

  Welcome all newbies! I appreciate your tale Razor and also everyone else who has recently posted with their stories. It is really remarkable how much we all have in common. Razor... definitely find a way to go back to school... for a degree or even a certificate program. It will take time but it will be worth it. I, too, am 40 and was raised in the truth. I just registered for Spring semester at a local university... I'm going to do it no matter how long it takes! I forget who on this thread took 9 + years for his/her degree! Bravo! I'm following your footsteps! Jbean
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  I dont remember the date I was baptized....

  by flower in

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  you know how at every baptismal talk they say to the candidates that they should 'make a note of this date june, 4 whatever..ect'?

  and everyone knows that date for like the rest of their life?

  well i dont remember when i was baptized.

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  JBean

  Thanks Lisa and TR... I'm quietly collecting all info that I can and keeping it for future reference : ) Happy New Year!
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  I dont remember the date I was baptized....

  by flower in

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  you know how at every baptismal talk they say to the candidates that they should 'make a note of this date june, 4 whatever..ect'?

  and everyone knows that date for like the rest of their life?

  well i dont remember when i was baptized.

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  JBean

  Welcome FLower! You'll surely find assistance and support on this board. I can't for the life of me remember the date of my baptism either (go figure!) : ) But I do know, that like you, I was approx. 18 years old... which puts the year at 1978. Now, here's the kicker: can anyone help with the year that they changed the 2 questions asked of candidates? 'Cos I think I was baptised before that... with God's holy spirit VERSUS "God's spirit directed organization". This could be important for many folks if they reach a point where they might be disfellowshipped... pledging to the org. vs. God might be an important point. Can anyone help? Jbean