Esther, I used to feel like that about Paul too.
One day I cam across a book that changed my whole outlook and made me dig into it a little further. The book was by former JW ELder Charles Trombley and called Who Said Women Can't Teach? From there I read a little more ... and one book by Katherine Bushnell was a real doozy.
When you are ready I have all these in the library here and you are welcome to borrow them.
Just to give you some idea of how men change it so you can't see the real meaning in a translation go look at 1 Tim 5:14 in the Greek and you will see the women are told to be the oikodespoto
oiko means "house"
despoto means "uncontrolled power"
Now when it is the masculine oikodespotes then "master or ruler of the house" as you can see in places like Luke 22:11
Now Esther, we all know what a DESPOT is .... and that is what Paul told us to be in our own homes.
Paul, coming from a Jewish background would have know how things worked in kosher Jewish homes ..... and even today, a Jewish man will not superced the authority of his wife when it comes to household matters .....
JanG
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