If the "truth" is really not the "truth" then what's the point of subjecting myself and my family to the rules and regulations?
You can relax those though. If you're not so strict about it, you and your kids will be fine for a while. If you allow your kids to keep an open mind, they will likely come to the same conclusions you have no come to and end up drifting away on their own.
If I were you, there is no rush. Things are peaceful. However, you should be making a long term plan in the back of your mind. You've questioned enough things, and now by posting will be exposed to so many more things that are questionable at best. Once getting to this point, you're not going to ever go back. So think of where your wife is, how she thinks, and how eventually you were tell her how you feel.