I know! It really pulls you down doesn't it. My mum got a "friendly" shepherding call from an elder and his wife about 8months ago and he ended up telling her that she shouldn't have anything to do with myself or my husband because of our views and questions about the org. at the time. We hadn't even left then! He then proceeded to relate how my husband was upsetting my children and making them cry at school by telling the teacher that we were no longer going to the Kingdom Hall. All of which wasn't true. He was making out my husband was a bad father, but he got half a story from someone else who didn't know all the information regarding my children at school and just proceeded to pass it on to my mum. Gossip....I think you call it. My mum was quite disgusted as there were other things that were said as well. She then said , "well I can't do that, because I still want to see my two grandsons". He then went on to point to two other sisters in the hall as an example, who were currently not seeing their children either and said to my mum that, although they didn't find it easy, they were still doing it in obedience with what the Bible said. He was basically saying she should be doing the same as them. This shepherding call upset my mum very much and led her to put a letter of disassociation in just a few weeks later.
I really dont think they can see the damage they do by just opening their mouths and saying what they want , regardless of how it makes a person feel. I mean, this is their nearest and dearest that they're dissing. Do they really think that you wont take offense, but just sit there and wholeheartedly agree with what they're saying?
They automatically assume that if you're not one of them any more then you turn into some sort of worldly , evil, monster. Yes ! Satan really is working overtime, but on whom ?.........whose words and actions seem to be the most discouraging ? Hope your mum will not be too upset by what they said.