Posts by xig28

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a relationship still going...

by xig28 in

hello i posted here a few months back in february about a situation i had with a jw girl.

if i last recall from that time she wasnt "feeling" me during that time.

but now all that has changed.

so the last 2 studies i had, i noticed how they use SOOO much examples for many of their topics. i cant remember all of the example but they use stuff like "would you plant a seed of an old apple or use a new apple and plants it seed" to say that if i would keep doing somehting old or take a new look for myself(i dont think i said that last part right but its close? lol) anyways im still trying to do research inside and on the outside. either way i havent made any progress into believing the studies yet.

p.s. i am ver hyper right now lol

-xig28

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a relationship still going...

by xig28 in

hello i posted here a few months back in february about a situation i had with a jw girl.

if i last recall from that time she wasnt "feeling" me during that time.

but now all that has changed.

xig28

eyes open,

thank you for the reconmendation of the book. i will be looking forward to ordering it and reading it as soon as possible especially with her. btw. i have recently gone to the hall with my grandmother(she is a jw as i mentioned before) the last 2 sundays and going to do a study with one of the members. though i abviously can tell many of their logic hardly makes sense and am currently looking upon the info they have provided with me and just contradicting against it around the research i do. i will not tell them though how i truly feel but i will make suggestion in questioning them. as for my friend-girl we are ok so far though i do have a problem with not being able to see her over the summer.(possibly i want her to try and see me even though it will be tough but still try no matter what) but we still talk. also what other section of the book is also reccomendable on reading through as well( if you have read it before). i will keep update on my situation. (and dont worry i wont be convinced from their studies, i can stand my ground).

-xig28

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Dating a JW and need some help

by Whizkid in

i've been 'going out' with a beautiful girl and we have a great time together.

we have a lot of similar interests and always have stuff to talk/do.

the problem is that she's a jw, and i know there is no way i'm going to become a jw.

xig28

just never give up hope. like many of the people here say be there for her. but of course this may be a bt off topic right now im also involved in the same situation as you are. of course you wont ever join the religion as for me i visited them this past sunday(can you say they were nice which i figured happen) and yea im not one to be convinced well because of my stubborness but i like to get involved and see in the inside of how they work and from there work my way in trying to find answer opposing some of their sayings. thats my situation so far. i hope yours goes better as well. by the way how long have you known her?

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a relationship still going...

by xig28 in

hello i posted here a few months back in february about a situation i had with a jw girl.

if i last recall from that time she wasnt "feeling" me during that time.

but now all that has changed.

xig28

hal i appreciate the comment. i learn very well with how they convince people.very bothering yes but when i do go to watch i will not argue with them.i cant really because im not one to start a conflict. they can say however much they like and ill be respectable about it. as for her she plans to go to college and become a nurse. myself i also plan to go to college(if thats what u meant by higher education haha). my major is somewhere along the lines of electric engineering(i have been taking classes at school to prepare myself). i do no wish to argue with her since that is what im trying to avoid. i only want her opinion on many of the things she thinks about of the religion. from there i will work it however it goes. i will be cautious when around them.

-xig28

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a relationship still going...

by xig28 in

hello i posted here a few months back in february about a situation i had with a jw girl.

if i last recall from that time she wasnt "feeling" me during that time.

but now all that has changed.

xig28

oh college is a year and half away. the situation hasnt really disturbed my schooling nor do i ever let it. and its summer right now so i got lots of time . and nameless one i'll definatly check out the info sometime. but can u give some examples as well to get soemthing going. im sure ill find some as im researching around.

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a relationship still going...

by xig28 in

hello i posted here a few months back in february about a situation i had with a jw girl.

if i last recall from that time she wasnt "feeling" me during that time.

but now all that has changed.

xig28

hello again people. so im posting again with a situation i find interesting. it doesnt neccesarily involve my jw girl. so my grandmother who is also a jw was somehow told that i wanted to be apart or study up for the jw. now when i heard this i started laughing in way but thought about it thinking it could be a good experiment and just go along with it. i know how they really are, i know what they will try to do(since i seen it many times b4 and read much about it here as well). if they pressure me im just gonna back off. i just want to see how they are even though they will be nice at first. im not one to get persuaded easily since im stubborn especially in religion. i told my jw girl about this and obviously she was happy about it but got a bit too ahead of herself asking me when im gonna start taking studies, asking her any doubt i have about the religion. the problem is that im not gonna be able to talk to her for the next week and half because she will be busy setting up things for a party and that she went over he phone bill. i feel like this would be the best time to get information out from both sides. why they think they are the "truth" and what others say why they are not. i just need good information on contradicting the religion. not trying to upset them but i want to make her think when i talk to her again. so does anyone have some good sites, links to go to for info. one the religion and how to "make them think a bit outside the box".i found some good links but i just need a alot more info. it wont be easy but i would like to take my shot at it.

-xig28

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What do you want out of your relationship?

by Bumble Bee in

i know there have been alot of threads lately about what men want, what women want etc, but i'd like to hear what you want out of your relationship, be it marriage, living together, or whatever.

what is it you are looking for in a relationship?

what do you want the relationship to fulfill for you individually and as a couple?.

xig28

IM gonna try and make this as simple and understandable as possible. the only thing i want out of a relationship is her happiness. really everything can only be worth it FOR ME if i can keep that happiness in her. and to just stay together forever.

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a relationship still going...

by xig28 in

hello i posted here a few months back in february about a situation i had with a jw girl.

if i last recall from that time she wasnt "feeling" me during that time.

but now all that has changed.

xig28

jgnat. i have thought have that b4. i kinda figured the reason why they never bring it up again was because it will soon fade away. and i wont lie maybe i am in school, young, maybe getting heart broken if things dont go my way, but that wont stop me from trying to stay with her. i always have thought that her parents, and other people in the religion will most liekly try to introduce her to other people and such.But why say they would be in denial especially saying she is in denial as well? i would assume like you say that they think she will lose interest me some time later on but they dont know much about our relationship. thankfully her parents didnt ask her everyhting about us. actually another thing to add she has been introduced to other "brothers" but she has no interest in them at all. she tells me she talks to them but has no interest in them at all. over time i will keep undating on our situation.

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a relationship still going...

by xig28 in

hello i posted here a few months back in february about a situation i had with a jw girl.

if i last recall from that time she wasnt "feeling" me during that time.

but now all that has changed.

xig28

hello i posted here a few months back in february about a situation i had with a jw girl. if i last recall from that time she wasnt "feeling" me during that time. but now all that has changed. me and her are stronger then ever(or so how we both see it). we admitted our true feelings to each other a month ago. right now everyhitng is going great. of course she may still be a jw, she never always seem to bring up the topic or even mention her religion at all unless i ask about her meetings she has. i wouldnt say she isnt afraid to talk about or forgets about it(cus we both know its still there). though i just have a quick question to ask you guys. most jw parents are strict when it comes to dating,talking, being around non-jw people. what is most reactions to when they find out about, for example a jw girl talking to a non-jw boy? do they tell them that never to talk to them again, they are bad people.etc? i ask is because her parents kind of found out about us awhile ago. they only thing they told her is to not talk to me on the phone again, her dad sorta threatning her to put her in home school at the time. so she "pretended" to break off the talk with me. But what was strange with when she told me what else happen is that her parents never brought it up again nor said anything else about it. they know she talks to me at school but school will end in a week so they most likely think she wont talk to me during the summer. so yea can anyone answer my question earlier of most jw parents reactions?

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what to say?

by xig28 in

hello i just started a new profile here but i have been wandering around here for awhile.i have seen many stories somewhat similar to what i have right now.

i have read many post from people here and they have been somewhat helpful ,but now i need help with a little of my own problem.

for future refrences i apologize if my story isnt as descriptive as i want it to be but please read until the very end.. well for starters i am 16, yes i am young and have my entire life ahead of me to enjoy but idk if i can fully enjoy it but please just listen to my story.

xig28

hello pioneer i appreciate the post you put and it encourage me a bit as well. but i think you mis-took what i said as in "her first" she wants her first love to be her last. which i mean that she wants her first relationship to last until the end, but really that only happens in move(at least in my opinion) its just that i have lost 3 important poeple in my life earlier and i couldnt do anything about because i was just too young and didnt know how. and seeing her in this religion just tares me apart because it isnt good. because sooner or later she will find out, and in a way that is how i want her to know the "real" truth of her religion. liek all young jw they never want to hear the badside of something but thats pretty much everything in everyone. but hey the truth sometimes always hurts us. i just only wished i met her outside of the religion.

the other day i had an important talk with her about us. we talked about her religion and i asked her if she is really happy where she is. she obviously said "yes" and has gone too far to go back. i really respect her and just want to show her how much she means to me sadley though she thinks though it cant go forward because we both are of different religion. right there i wanted to say something, but i didnt want to upset her in any way. she kept asking me why people keep trying when they know they will never get it. well i think she doesnt get it. were only human we are not perfect we will do whatever it takes and it wont matter how long it will take. its almost as if she wanted me to stop trying but you know what.......after a day of thinking about what she told i feel like trying harder. i will try but at the same time as i mention b4 i dont want to take away what comforts her right now. i just want to show her that there is always someone out there waiting for her. that alone shows that i will never give up.

you know you have somehow provided me with some hope and not only that i somehow provided myself with some hope as well.thank you!! i will keep you updated on the situation

-xig28