I understand this, but what I don't understand is why when I ask them about this, they deny it, but practice it.
It does seem to be that way. I personally have found that it depends on the person/people. Like my sister. She understands and tries to help. She still calls and checks on me, and treats me like her brother. My aunt still associates with her daughter (my cousin) even though my cousin is clear that she is not a JW anymore, and has her bf over all the time. My parennts are at the other end. EVERYTHING they do they do is to extreme. They consider themselves the example to follow. Another thing to remember, it that there is an underlying need to be a better Witness than the everyone else. God forbid you get labled as the lax or careless one. So everyone ups the standards, thus taking things to the extreme. The congregation in turn would rather it be this way, then it go the other way, so they allow it. Ultimately keeping the congregation clean and free from bad influence is the ultimate goal in everyones eyes. My .02 anyways.
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Dear Friend, You are Satan so don't talk to me
by Younglove1999 insome background info: .
in 2006, i was still a jw (jehovah's witness) we were attending a congregation in v town.
i had been going there since we were married, and ben had grew up in that congregation.
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Dear Friend, You are Satan so don't talk to me
by Younglove1999 insome background info: .
in 2006, i was still a jw (jehovah's witness) we were attending a congregation in v town.
i had been going there since we were married, and ben had grew up in that congregation.
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I am sorry you had to go through this ... take comfort in the fact that it is not YOU. (and not just you. It is a common tale.) But you will be better off. Thinking for yourself is wonderful.
This is the way of life for them and the teaching. They think their loyalty to the faithful will be rewarded in the end. Both my friends and father and mother have all had simlar conversations with me. They justify it with scripture. In their minds they are correct.
I have tried to ask my father, so has my sister (who is reinstated now, but still supports me in all my decisions) , as to why worldly people and coworkers get better treatment then friends and family who have just left the organization. I am still waiting on a logical answer. At least the last time he did not funble through a bs answer, my father the Elder could not give me an answer.
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How long has this site been around? (New Guy)
by josh1029 ini always knew others had the same thoughts and ideas as i had ... but i never could have imagined that it was on this large of a scale.
wow ... people who understand and will not judge.. little about me:.
i am the son of an elder.
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Hey Josh, mind me asking what part of NC your from? Been in Charlotte a little over 3 years now. Moved here with the wife right before we got married for her job.
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How long has this site been around? (New Guy)
by josh1029 ini always knew others had the same thoughts and ideas as i had ... but i never could have imagined that it was on this large of a scale.
wow ... people who understand and will not judge.. little about me:.
i am the son of an elder.
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I always knew others had the same thoughts and ideas as I had ... but I never could have imagined that it was on this large of a scale. Wow ... people who understand and will not judge.
Little about me:
I am the son of an elder. (This of course has always come first.) Parents both baptized before I was born, so this is all knew. My eyes opened to the REAL truth in my early twenties, although I was do things to rebel as early as 14. Grew up crazy poor because my father was insistent that 'Jah would provide', so he worked part time cleaning carpets and pioneered. (Lord knows I could talk for hours on that alone.). I have been married to a wonderful woman for 3 years now, but since she is not a JW and we lived together for a year before we got married, they did not come to the wedding. They have little or no communication with us because of that, yet they blame me. My wife does not understand. I try to explain it to her, but it is beyond her. How could someone that has not lived it understand? I was married before to a witness that cheated on me repeatedly, yet the parents supported that situation (and still do) more than they ever will this one. .
I have one sister that has been disfellowshiped twice and reinstated. Her only goal is pleasing our father. She has wrapped herself into a pretzel trying to do so, without understanding that nothing is ever enough.
On top of it all, and the thing that bothers me the most, I am a failure in my fathers eyes. With no hope or direction of college or advance education (why would there be? We are all supposed to rely on 'him' and pioneer), I have made a good life for myself and my family. Nice modest house, bills are paid on time. I would consider myself a good person, twisted sense of humor sometimes, but good overall. Good to my friends and family. (Although my friends have become my extended family) But since I am no longer a Witness, and can now think for myself, I am a failure, and he has failed as a father. I know better, but it still aches every once and awhile.
Well ... wanted to say hi. Look forward to talking and chatting in the future. Nice to finally find like minded folks.