COVERTS- I really, seriously empathize with your position. I went through similar situations with my JW wife when we were still married in the 1990's. She painted me into a corner claiming I wasn't " taking the lead " or being her " spiritual head " . Here's the situation : when guys like you and me have had JW marriage mates that are really hardcore indoctrinated , it's almost impossible to argue JW teachings or ideas with them. Like beating your head against a brick wall- doesn't work and it produces nothing positive. She gets more set in her JW ways , and you get unjustly portrayed as the " devil incarnate " . That's due to the Jehovah's Witness mind control.
I agree with the posters here who say to avoid JW topics with her entirely for the time being as best you can . It will make your existence and life easier to bear while living with your wife. Also I agree - be proactive in disclosing and sharing information with your children about the false promises of the WT Society and injustices happening within the JW organization. But do this of course out of your wife's presence. You didn't say how old your children are- so that's something to take into account about how much you reveal to them.
Hopefully you can live for a few years or some time with this situation- but if you do reach your breaking point in dealing with the stress in your marriage ( and only you know yourself how much emotional stress you can bear ) if it goes downhill to the point where you need to divorce - it's not a crime to do so. In fact, for some of us, it's been the start of a new life in which we become happier, our ex becomes happier , stress free, and our minor children aren't eyewitnesses to the arguments, yelling of spouses, and contention anymore in their day to day lives. So, just saying, it's an option if all else fails. About 8 years after my divorce I met Mrs. Flipper and we've been together 12 years now, married almost that long.
I wish you the best no matter what you do and we are here, myself included to offer friendship and support in anyway possible to you. If you ever want to chat on the phone, just private e-mail me on the board here and I'd be happy to talk with you friend. Hang in there, Peace out, Mr. Flipper
