flipper again.
personally my all time favorite song?
stairway to heaven by led zeppelin.one of my top favorite groups ,too.
There are so many that i like
Sermon- Drowning Pool------For days i hate the JWs
Always- Saliva----- A good chill out song
Low mans lyric_ Metallica----- Just a melody
Fade to black- Metallica----Just one of those bad days
Its been a while- Staind---For when things in my relationship just not going right
Just to name a few
There are many more
Helen
as i was driving home from work tonight i was feeling uneasy which was unusual for me and then it occured to me that it was a close friends death anniversary(13-06-93), reflecting on my way home i thought of the good times that we had(i had known this person since i was 7 till he died at 16) and for the first time in many years this year i have felt at ease with this as the previous years i have always been a mess.. i still think of others who have died over the years but think of the positive and no longer feel the sad pain anymore.
have i moved on?.
so i ask how long does it take to actually get over the pain and hurt from loved ones dieing?.
Thank you for everyone who replied.
We all have lost someone we loved and cared about at some point in our life.
How we deal with the death is really up to the individual person and for my friend i never got to say goodbye as he was killed in a car accident. I guess in a way i was in love with him and never got the chance to tell him my feelings either, so i guess this has always hindered the healing process.
Others i had had the chance to say goodbye which i know does help even though it does hurt still for 'that time of year'.
I am sorry for all your lost loved ones
Peace be with you all
Helen
as i was driving home from work tonight i was feeling uneasy which was unusual for me and then it occured to me that it was a close friends death anniversary(13-06-93), reflecting on my way home i thought of the good times that we had(i had known this person since i was 7 till he died at 16) and for the first time in many years this year i have felt at ease with this as the previous years i have always been a mess.. i still think of others who have died over the years but think of the positive and no longer feel the sad pain anymore.
have i moved on?.
so i ask how long does it take to actually get over the pain and hurt from loved ones dieing?.
As i was driving home from work tonight i was feeling uneasy which was unusual for me and then it occured to me that it was a close friends death anniversary(13-06-93), reflecting on my way home i thought of the good times that we had(i had known this person since i was 7 till he died at 16) and for the first time in many years this year i have felt at ease with this as the previous years i have always been a mess.
I still think of others who have died over the years but think of the positive and no longer feel the sad pain anymore.
Have i moved on?
So i ask how long does it take to actually get over the pain and hurt from loved ones dieing?
Guessing it does depend on how close and how well you knew that person.
Helen
(For my friend Stuart)
i was just wondering when you where going through the questions for baptism did you know you had to dedicate yourself to jehovah before hand or did you lie?.
i didn't know i had to so when i went through the questions i had to lie and say i had.
i always felt bad about it afterwards and quickly did a little prayer that night.
I basically said the words that they wanted to hear.
I was only doing it so i would be more accepting of me as i had been branded as a certain person due to who i used to hang out with.
I should have known better at 17 1/2 but the saying goes you live and learn.
I never really believed but just so wanted to be accepted.
Helen
so i posted a while back about my marriage problems.... whole new gambit thrown into the mix.
i've had suspicions all along that something like this might be happening... but only just not confirmed that she's been cheating on me... with another jw that she works with!
she could have been more discreet about it rather than leave all the text messages on her phone.
(((((sorry you are going through this)))))
You are young, and have the choice to sort it out or just leave.
Thankfully you have no children and does make it all easier.
Take care
Helen
please check this out!
i find it very interesting.
your thoughts please.. http://www.forbetterlife.org/index.asp.
Hmmm interesting.
Sound like a better organisation than what else is out there.
Helen
i've started this thread as i'm currently working in customer service and am looking for a change.
i've just spent the better part of the day on the local university's website going through their "career decider" answering questions on education, skills, interests, lifestyle the works.
i entered a strong interest in both the arts as well as computers and electronics.
HI Brinjen,
Ive just had 2 major career changes in the last 2 years.
The first was out of health reasons i just wasn't coping with what i was doing(more with post natal) and the hours and having a new baby and an older child just too much, the other was something my hubby and i wanted to do for a long time was to start our own business we have been lucky that i have the tertiary qualifications from my previos jobs that i have been able to meld them into our business.
This may not be for you and you have to bee 200% committed but it has been well worth it.
I have even considered going to uni to finish off a part diploma that i had done at TAFE and to get a bachelor of business.
So write down what your dream job may entail and look to see what you will have to do to get it or something close to it.
Its hard making that career change. But it can be well worth it in the end and if it doesnt work you will know that you had tried and wasn't for you.
Regards
Helen
ok, all you lovely people,.
so it's been a year now since mrs h and i went our seperate ways, and even though there are people on the boards that i've come to love very much i've started having a tic in one eye whenever i see a presentable lady in real life.
i guess that means that i maybe ready to start looking for some female companionship.. thing is, it''s been over 20 years since i last went on 'the pull', and i'm a bit rusty these days.
These online dating services can be a great start in getting back into the dating game.
But like the others have said they can all sound good in emails and online chats and you may fall for them but what counts is what happens in real life.
I had a cousin who met a girl on a JW site fell in love moved to the US, married.I felt sorry for her i knew what she was getting herself into... Makes me laugh she did a runner a few months after they were married he had to come back to aussieland to his mummy and daddy.
Been a long time since i have been in the dating game and don't wish it upon anyone i know its scary, but write down what you are looking for and what you may be willing to comprisie on.
Good Luck
Helen
this is for all you girls 30 years and over.... and for those who are turning 30, and for those who are scared of moving into their 30's...and for guys who are scared of girls over 30!!!!....
this was written by andy rooney from cbs 60 minutes.
andy rooney says:.
Thats interesting that someone had changed it for women over 30.
I still got a laugh out of it....LOL
Just got it sent to me as an email thought all the gals would like a laugh!
Helen
for me it was a combination of things over a long period of time.
being raised as a witness, you do things by rote.
but when you see sooooooooo many watchtower inconsistencies, mistreatment of the "brothers", elder abuse, and simple lack of love, it begins to make you start seriously thinking.
Struggling to prove myself as i had a cousin who i was very close to get DF and to prove that i wasn't like her i did the next best thing i was batized in 91(17 years old), i thought every thing would be different but nothing change in fact it got worse.
Seeing what they were doing to my dad and uncles and how the cong treated everyone and it all had there own special groups i just couldn't believe that this place was supposed to be full of love but there was none.
So many of the young ones had either got married at a young age or left.
So when my parents were going away on a holiday and i was not allowed to stay at home ( i was 18) i moved out of home and the religion
I haven't looked back since. I guess it just wasn't for me!
