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  Did you think your life was over as you knew it? Were you sure?

  by oompa in

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  i knew, and i am beginning to think i was right.

  several shrinks and therapists later, and i realize that my entire life structure is not only gone, but it was a farce in the first place.

  how do you cope with that?

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  GoingGoingGone

  I'm so sorry you're going through this now. I was in the same situation as you... Raised in, every single friend I ever had was a JW, as was my husband. My kids had been raised in all their lives. My friends went from being very concerned, to being pushy ("what can I do to help you get back to meetings?") to ignoring me. I thought my life and my marriage would never be the same.

  It's been over 3 years since I was to a meeting last, and everything has finally settled into some sort of normalacy. Some friends still avoid me. But some, when we're forced together in some social setting, treat me like they always have. We have fun together like we always did. I KNOW it has everything to do with my own attitude. I'm not apologetic anymore, afraid they'll ask me about meetings... I am who I am, and they can see that I'm happy and confident. So they respect me and I respect them (praying before eating, etc), and we enjoy each other.

  You say you're worried about not being the husband and father you used to be. Why are you worried about that?? That person spent umpteen hours at meetings and service and studying. You have time to spend with your family (when they're not at meetings), you have the freedom to discover the person you really are and what you really believe. You are a better person now without the mind control.

  Is your life going to be different? Absolutely. Your marriage? Yup. But I believe that marriage is always about compromise, JW or not. Your wife and kids believe differently than you. That's ok, as long as they respect you for who you are now, and you respect who they are. I absolutely hate the fact that my husband wastes so much time and money going to meetings, service, assemblies, etc. But he hates the fact that I don't go with him. And we have found a way to live with that - because he's a good person and I want my kids to have a happy home to come to when they are grown and have their own families.

  I know it doesn't work for everyone. But if you can convince yourself that you deserve to be treated with respect, you'll project that belief, and it will affect others' treatment of you. Maybe that's a good thing to start with?

  (((((((oompa))))))

  GGG
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  My Current Battle

  by KW13 in

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  ranting individuals need not reply.

  i need encouragement and general advice, personal accounts etc.. am i a christian or am i not?

  i've come to a point where i'm not sure whether or not i want to believe in anything, at the moment i'm confused as to whether i am a believer or whether i am someone recovering from indoctrination.. i feel that i've not had a 'pure' opportunity to decide if i want to be a believe and although the thought has been in the back of my mind, the conditioning has made me delay it and my current circumstances and poor health are forcing me to face it - i fear facing it will make me worse because its yet another thing i am not really mentally strong enough to deal with.. is it natural i fear what being an atheist means for me.

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  GoingGoingGone

  I left the JWs because I found so much conflict between what they teach and what the bible says. I wanted to serve God the right way. In the few years since my fade, I've bounced between intensive bible study, visiting other churches, and most of all, trying to understand why God allows all the suffering we see on earth. I don't believe the bible is inspired anymore.

  My journey has taken me somewhere completely different than where I envisioned it would. Right now, I am not sure that God exists, but if he does, I am convinced that he has no strict requirement that humans worship him in a specific way. How could he?? We don't have an inborn knowledge that God is out there - we're taught he is. Depending on your country of birth, God could be One, or millions, or a trinity, or whatever. You could spend your entire life studying the subject in depth, and still not know.

  If God wanted us to worship him in one specific way, it would be 'inborn' in us somehow, like a 'spiritual conscience', sort of. We'd simply know the right way to worship him. But, we don't.

  Right now I'm torn between believing that we can worship God any way we want (ie, he doesn't care, as long as we pay attention to him), or believing that he doesn't care if we worship at all. Or becoming an athiest. I can't quite go there yet. But it's a journey, and I can change my mind at any time. And so can you!

  GGG
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  Ian (Dansk) in hospital with CMV

  by Alleymom in

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  hi, everyone ---.

  claire asked me to let the board know that ian is back in the hospital and expected to be there for about a week.. those of you who have been following the weekly vigil thread know that his cmv has returned.

  the virus is not responding adequately to the tablets, so ian needs to be medicated intravenously.. please keep ian and claire in your prayers.. marjorie.

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  GoingGoingGone

  I'm sorry you've ended up back in the hospital, Ian. Hope you're feeling much better very soon!

  Hugs to you and your family.

  GGG
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  ten pounds in ten weeks

  by Hortensia in

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  so it's january 1 and i want to lose ten pounds in ten weeks.

  i've been on a diet for a year and a half and have lost 130 pounds.

  weight loss has slowed down, so i need more focus and more exercise.

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  GoingGoingGone

  I just read thru this whole post and now I'm inspired.

  I have a lot of weight to lose and I haven't been taking care of myself. I don't eat right and I don't exercise enough. I get depressed and I eat.... and I'm not talking about salads, either!

  This is a good idea, I like the accountability of "reporting in"... So, I'm starting today!!!

  As of this instant, I've lost 0 pounds... and counting....

  GGG
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  Baby GIRL names that start with "J"

  by purplesofa in

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  my daughter is still not decided on a baby name.

  she wants the name to start with a j...... .

  do you all have any suggestions, please?

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  GoingGoingGone

  I like Jasmine.

  And Jacqueline.

  GGG
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  Standish Arms Sold by WTS, 5 other buildings on the market

  by blondie in

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  5 other buildings remain on the market.

  by linda collins.

  brooklyn daily eagle.

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  GoingGoingGone

  Asked for information about the buyer, Semonian would only say, “The buyer has not authorized us to release that information.”

  It will be a matter of public record in a very short time anyway, what's the big deal? Does anyone know what it sold for?

  GGG
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  >oops!<

  by Nathan Natas in

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  well that was a waste of a topic..

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  GoingGoingGone

  This is the funniest post I've read all day!

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  Is There Anybody That You KNOW That You Can Implicitly Trust?

  by minimus in

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  is there a person or persons that you can trust 100%?

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  GoingGoingGone

  Me, Myself, and I.

  GGG
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  Must be the holidays....

  by watson in

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  i've decided that i am an eggnogstic.

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  GoingGoingGone

  Why put a time limit on yummyness?!

  GGG
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  Question about "Status" in WTS

  by GoodnessGracious in

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  so if a witness has an ubm .

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  does that limit how high they can go in the society ??

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  GoingGoingGone

  Welcome, GoodnessGracious!

  No, a man can still be an elder or whatever with an unbelieving wife. Even if the wife is a JW and is DF'd or inactive, it doesn't affect his elder-ship.

  If there is a problem with his kids, though, then he will probably be asked to step down.

  GGG