Hi everyone,
Well, my friend left her husband last night, before I could let her know what all of you had offered for advice. I plan on telling her tonight, paraphrase style. I want to thank everyone for your prompt help. I wasn't expecting so much so quickly and I really appreciate it as will my friend.
wonderwhy
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Please help me help a friend, quickly
by wonderwhy ini have a friend who is a jw as is her husband.
she is stuck in a marriage with a man whom i believe has major mental problems and he is visciously abusive to her emotionally.
on two occasions he became physically violent with her as in he grabbed her and pinned her while he was yelling at her.
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wonderwhy
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Please help me help a friend, quickly
by wonderwhy ini have a friend who is a jw as is her husband.
she is stuck in a marriage with a man whom i believe has major mental problems and he is visciously abusive to her emotionally.
on two occasions he became physically violent with her as in he grabbed her and pinned her while he was yelling at her.
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wonderwhy
Thank you Dee. I know if I were to tell any of them that I'm not a witness I would immediatly be shot down and not be able to say anything. Actually, I often wonder why my friend tells me these personal things that go on with her, as she knows I'm not a witness. I did study with her for awhile, but drifted off from it after I read up on it on my own and discovered how bizarre everything about them is, but our friendship continues. She is a good friend and person, even though her thinking is a tad warped from all of the witness junk that is stuck in her mind. I'm glad you got out of your situation safely, Dee.
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Please help me help a friend, quickly
by wonderwhy ini have a friend who is a jw as is her husband.
she is stuck in a marriage with a man whom i believe has major mental problems and he is visciously abusive to her emotionally.
on two occasions he became physically violent with her as in he grabbed her and pinned her while he was yelling at her.
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wonderwhy
Oh yeah I forgot about that part of the equation. Thanks, Dave. I do know that is part of her troubles, being a witness. She has to make sure it's something her fellow witnesess approve of before she does anything. If she could talk to somebody outside of all of that, she would be able to see so much more. I have found her life is actually very isolated, which adds to the problem. All of her talk about her wonderful "family" and "brothers and sisters" and all of the love they have for each other doesn't really count for much if she has to watch what she can talk about with them. I will take your advice and paraphrase. Thank you again.
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Please help me help a friend, quickly
by wonderwhy ini have a friend who is a jw as is her husband.
she is stuck in a marriage with a man whom i believe has major mental problems and he is visciously abusive to her emotionally.
on two occasions he became physically violent with her as in he grabbed her and pinned her while he was yelling at her.
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wonderwhy
Oh my goodness!! Thank you so much for replying! I never expected this so fast. She and I have been discussing her leaving, and yes, she is afraid of making him look bad, which blew me away, because I couldn't understand her reasoning. She is the one being treated badly. I am going to print these replys and give them to her. Thank you again for replying. All of you are very helpful people. Thank you
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Please help me help a friend, quickly
by wonderwhy ini have a friend who is a jw as is her husband.
she is stuck in a marriage with a man whom i believe has major mental problems and he is visciously abusive to her emotionally.
on two occasions he became physically violent with her as in he grabbed her and pinned her while he was yelling at her.
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wonderwhy
Hi everyone,
I have a friend who is a jw as is her husband. She is stuck in a marriage with a man whom I believe has major mental problems and he is visciously abusive to her emotionally. On two occasions he became physically violent with her as in he grabbed her and pinned her while he was yelling at her. He constantly degrades her, cuts her down and makes her feel worthless. She is hesitant to tell anyone, and I've begged her to do this. SHe had mentioned speaking with elders at her kingdom hall, but then she said even if she does, she needs witnesses to her husbands actions. This is impossible, because he doesn't act this way in front of others, and it's not like she calls people over to the house to document his tirades. What can I do to help her? I know if I call her hall and talk to elders it may cause more problems than I am aware of, given I'm not a witness, I'm sure somethine would go wrong and effect her negativly if I were to do that. Does anyone have any advice as to how to help her. She is being verbally and emotionally torn apart every day by her husband and it's killing me because I can't do anything. Thank you in advance.