i got chucked out of a wedding..
i had arrived early to get a seat at the back in a corner out of the way..because it would be more obtrusive to do the df thing and come in during the song cos thats when the bride and her entourage are entering.
you are right..it is humiliating and bewildering. i left as calmly as i could in a highly emotional state.
and i was not apostate and i was attending all the meetings
about 6 months later when i applied for reinstatement i was told that i had behaved in a manner that df-ed people shouldn't (refering back to the wedding incident)
application denied.
so the point of not including df-ed ones in such activities is to get them to feel it and then want to get back...and after feeling it and wanting to get back you are told that you shouldnt put yourself in a position to feel it..or that you are wrongly motivated for being accepted back.
it still convinces me that they have no divine backing.