Yeah, to date the judge has been reluctant to let the kid testify because he doesn't want to put him in that position, or so I was told. The kid wants to testify. From what his mom said she was planning on having him there so she could call him to testify if she wanted.
I like the advice and will pass it along. Thanks!
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In search of custody hearing advice ...
by dubstepped ini don't have kids, but i recently found that someone with kids that lives in my town is also an ex-jw.
she just happened to post on an apostafest thread on facebook for an event that i attended, saw that we lived in the same place, and i met her for the first time tonight.
pretty cool.. she has a 14 year old boy that is super smart and very articulate.
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In search of custody hearing advice ...
by dubstepped ini don't have kids, but i recently found that someone with kids that lives in my town is also an ex-jw.
she just happened to post on an apostafest thread on facebook for an event that i attended, saw that we lived in the same place, and i met her for the first time tonight.
pretty cool.. she has a 14 year old boy that is super smart and very articulate.
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dubstepped
I don't have kids, but I recently found that someone with kids that lives in my town is also an ex-JW. She just happened to post on an Apostafest thread on Facebook for an event that I attended, saw that we lived in the same place, and I met her for the first time tonight. Pretty cool.
She has a 14 year old boy that is super smart and very articulate. There is shared custody between his mom and dad. Dad is an active JW, with lots of JW family around. Kid doesn't want to go to meetings and conventions and such and wants to just live with his mom. They like to pull him out of meetings if he's not paying attention, take him outside with multiple elders, and tell him he's going to die if he doesn't listen. They like to coach him on how he should manipulate his mom to let him do more JW things too. He can see through it all, but is tired of being subjected to it.
His mom has done her best to help the judge see that this isn't a healthy environment for him. Ultimately though the judge just sees it as a kid that doesn't want to go to church. She has plead her case but this time has the hard evidence from Watchtower publications to show certain things about their beliefs that are unbecoming. At some point baptism came up and the father said that disfellowshipping doesn't break family ties, which we all know is baloney, even sometimes when kids are young and at home it gets super ugly.
The dad has messed around financially and tried to get child support lowered, though he's still never paid a dime. Mom was hoping to get her son into counseling to have a counselor state that the cult doctrine is unhealthy and to get her son's take on things to present to the court, but the dad quit his job and started a new one so that he has no insurance leading up to this next hearing so there's no money for a counselor.
Apparently in these hearings mom and dad can present what they want. Mom has tried in the past but wasn't armed with hard copies of certain publications which she has now. She has asked if I would testify as to the impact of the cult, shunning (especially since I do the podcast and can show that it indeed destroys families), and just whatever she needs.
It seems like the biggest issue for the judge is that he sees it as freedom of religion, though clearly it is only mom and dad that have that freedom. Dad has the right to indoctrinate his child, mom has the right to go against that. So proving that it is harmful to the child who is 14 might be of help, but the way it works is that you can't just show what even an expert like Steve Hassan has to say without having him there in person. There are some ex-JWs that will come testify but one of them wanted $8,000 to do so and they all charge for their services. I get that too, to a point, but we're talking a 4 hour drive and 2 hour hearing. I'm charging nothing, and I'd like to make sure that whatever I can provide is at least worth the cost.
So, if the main argument is that the judge just sees it as religious rights of both parents superseding the rights of the child, what angles might be taken? Any ideas? Mine was to show that it is unhealthy doctrine, which is an option. Apparently since dad has said that he gets his beliefs from the elite eight those WT publications are in play without the morons at the top being present. I tried to get her to say that she's a worshiper of cult experts to get their testimony allowed, but I guess your fantasy has to claim religious status to be accepted as is.
I'll take any advice and forward it on. I can only testify at the direction of the mom and upon the cross examination of the dad's attorney. She cannot afford one. She cannot afford a counselor on her own either. So she's at somewhat of a disadvantage, not that it may make a difference if the judge sees it merely as simple religious rights without the kid really having any.
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Over eating v over drinking
by Normalfulla inwhen i was in, i couldn't understand why the subject of over eating or gluttony was almost never discussed, there was countless talks and articles about over drinking but over eating is lumped in as the same offence in the bible but was never discussed?
an elder who was serving in the islands told me he heard a talk given by a local in the cong there who professed that "in the new system we can eat as much as we want and not get fat".
so why was /is it not talked about?
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I always wondered about this too. Not only gluttony that made one unhealthy and obese, but what about my dad the elder that couldn't stop eating sugar and killed himself with it? The guy was non-compliant with medications, didn't make changes needed, lived in denial his whole life, all of the symptoms of alcoholism but without the alcohol, which is sugar too. He never drank like his alcoholic parents, but he killed himself with sugar. That was okay though. He could still be an elder, still give public talks, still sit in judgment of other people's problems, etc. I remember him once talking about how ridiculous nicotine patches were and how a person should still be disfellowshipped if they couldn't quit cigarettes without a patch even if they weaned themselves off it. Yet when it came to what he put in his own body, he was all good. It always bothered me.
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Why not extend your child's life and take the consequences?
by I_love_Jeff injehovah's witnesses & blood transfusions.
if your son or daughter were badly burned, he or she would require regular whole blood transfusions.
as a good jehovah's witness, it is your duty to refuse this procedure and watch your child die instead.
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Good point, but it negates the JW viewpoint that by letting the child die they feel that all of them will be reunited in paradise. Their thoughts aren't about what's good for the kid today. Their doctrine robs them of normal human feelings and replace them with fantasies of playing with pandas together if they forego this ultimately worthless life.
So if you want to ask those questions you probably first have to defuse the bomb that is their belief system that drops on their child. It's hard to use normal human reasoning with abnormal fantasy.
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New Episode Of The Shunned Podcast If You're So Inclined
by dubstepped ini know i have a few people here that enjoy the stories on the podcast, so i announce when a new one comes out.
also sometimes this is a way for new people to find it and get help if they want, so here it is.
between this jw life (my first podcast) and shunned we just went over the 40,000 individual download mark, which is pretty cool.. i just released episode sixteen about sydney, and it's a great look into the narcissism and authoritarian nature of the cult.
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You're all very welcome. I usually do one episode per month, but I did two in August, and I released this one yesterday, have another coming next weekend from the Midwest Apostafest, and one the weekend after that featuring an Amish woman. So I'll post those up when they come out. I'll go back to one per month in October for a bit in all likelihood, though I'm considering trying two per month. I'm not sure I can keep up that pace though.
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New Episode Of The Shunned Podcast If You're So Inclined
by dubstepped ini know i have a few people here that enjoy the stories on the podcast, so i announce when a new one comes out.
also sometimes this is a way for new people to find it and get help if they want, so here it is.
between this jw life (my first podcast) and shunned we just went over the 40,000 individual download mark, which is pretty cool.. i just released episode sixteen about sydney, and it's a great look into the narcissism and authoritarian nature of the cult.
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You're welcome, and the pleasure is ours my friend. :)
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New Episode Of The Shunned Podcast If You're So Inclined
by dubstepped ini know i have a few people here that enjoy the stories on the podcast, so i announce when a new one comes out.
also sometimes this is a way for new people to find it and get help if they want, so here it is.
between this jw life (my first podcast) and shunned we just went over the 40,000 individual download mark, which is pretty cool.. i just released episode sixteen about sydney, and it's a great look into the narcissism and authoritarian nature of the cult.
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I know I have a few people here that enjoy the stories on the podcast, so I announce when a new one comes out. Also sometimes this is a way for new people to find it and get help if they want, so here it is.
Between This JW Life (my first podcast) and Shunned we just went over the 40,000 individual download mark, which is pretty cool.
I just released episode sixteen about Sydney, and it's a great look into the narcissism and authoritarian nature of the cult.
You can find it and listen on your podcast app of choice. The benefit of the app is that you can subscribe and get automatic downloads to listen to wherever you go. I like Podcast Republic as my app, but it's on most all of them as far as I know, including the big ones like iTunes and Google Play. If you're not a podcast person you can listen here:https://shunnedpodcast.com/episode-sixteen-sydney-is-shunned-by-jehovahs-witnesses/
And if you happen to be a fan of the Youtubes you can listen here:
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shameless pride in my daughter in law
by nonjwspouse inshe is two weeks postpartum after having my granddaughter when she sang this .
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rulm5zl-isa.
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dubstepped
Yep, good for her. She has a great voice.
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$2,000 fine for not releasing files?
by Bad_Wolf inhttps://international.la-croix.com/news/jehovahs-witness-leader-urges-elders-to-destroy-sex-abuse-records/8188#.
a california court fined only $2,000 to the wt for not releasing records of 775 sex abuse cases?
they should have made the fine 20 million +.
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Lol at you poking at my social status. Keep reaching friend. I have a ton of friends, a happy marriage, and lack the dearth of joy you exhibit here.
Typing at me about barging into a thread and addressing things not being addressed to me, by you, is rich. But what do I understand about the rich, right?
Thanks for speaking to this commoner. You truly bless us all.
Also, lol at Sparrow's comment. I thought the same.
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$2,000 fine for not releasing files?
by Bad_Wolf inhttps://international.la-croix.com/news/jehovahs-witness-leader-urges-elders-to-destroy-sex-abuse-records/8188#.
a california court fined only $2,000 to the wt for not releasing records of 775 sex abuse cases?
they should have made the fine 20 million +.
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Oh geez, the window cleaner slam. That's not quite my business, and you should know since you're all about nitpicky bullshit.
I think you determined what the main point was by taking over his thread. Flight costs for the GB are not the subject of the article linked nor the main part of the original post, though included. You then made it all about that one thing. Thus the talk of derailing the thread. The first two responses didn't seem so hung up on what you did.
It seemed to be a use of hyperbole, like your butthurt comments recently on new boys thread about my mentions of my podcast. I could have shown how wrong you were but you're "that guy" I mentioned earlier. I believe in the last little bit Cofty said "fuck you" to you, snakes let you know how unpleasant you are, and here you go again. You march on to thread after thread and shit on them. Clearly that's your shtick.
That last part was quite clever. You have the ability to be funny, dare I say witty. It's such a waste that it's all delivered in such a bitter and hateful way.