That and one other meeting that month was the only thing I attended last year. I don't plan to attend again.
Posts by Sassy
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35did you ever miss the memorial?
by freelife indid any of you ever miss the memorial while you were in?
i missed 2 of them.
once i had a very serious staff infection in my leg and i could not wear any pants or shorts because it ran all the way up my thigh.
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Silent elder at my door
by JH inan elder and his wife were in my apartment building this morning.
i live on the 3rd (top floor) and i heard someone walking up the stairway very slowly and silently.
so i went out the back door, down the staircase and up the front staircase where they were, and i saw them at the neighbors door, 3 feet away from mine.
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Sassy
that is why I am glad I moved far far away.. I have my own life now.
You sure busted them. I have to wonder if they almost wet their pants when they saw you down there looking up at them!
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Anybody know what this is?
by funkyderek in.
the tape measure is only there for comparison.
any ideas, i can win a bottle of wine if i get the answer in the next two hours or so....
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Sassy
We should have a contest like that here... someone take a digital pic of something and see who can guess it first... that could be fun!
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Anybody Notice Simon's New........
by Frannie Banannie insneaky santa claus in the top left corner of the site on the jwd logo?
heheheheh i love it!.
frannie b
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Sassy
Its adorable!! I must admit I didn't notice it until I read this thread though!! How perceptive is that??
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To Scooby Snax
by Big Tex inon another thread scooby snax said: my grandad died yesterday evening.
said he felt unwell took himself to bed.
my nan checked on him a bit later, and found he'd died in his sleep.
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Sassy
Sorry Scooby. It's hard losing a grandparent.
((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))
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After JW, do you hunger for all the things you didnt do..simple things
by LyinEyes inbeing raised a jw, i honestly did not know what a great big world we live in.
all the places i never went to see, things i wanted to do,,,, because i figured , i will just do that when the new world gets here.
there was always going to be forever to do all the things that make life interesting.. i settled for the here and now as a good jw, meetings, field service, studying the same material over and over in the wt publications, and that was my life.
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"the U.N." - it's effects on the witnesses
by gumby inin short......i am surprised of the organisations involvement with the u.n......had the damaging effect to the degree that it did......upon those who learned of it.. when the 'generation change' occured in 94', i thought there would be a bigger fallout.
when the voting issue happened, i thought it would cause quite a stir.
with "dateline" and "fifth estate" uncovering child molestation issue among jehovah's witnesses....i thought many would fall out.. what gets me is the amount , that were effected by the u.n. scandle.
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Sassy
I have to say, and i bet i am right, most JWS leave without the help of apostates.
That is so true.
Although probably because they put the fear of damnation in you if you listen to apostates. You are afraid if you listen or read apostate literature you will somehow be struck with lightening or something.
If I had known what I know now from apostates, I would have left a long time ago.... but I didn't listen until I had already made the choice to no longer be a JW.
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"the U.N." - it's effects on the witnesses
by gumby inin short......i am surprised of the organisations involvement with the u.n......had the damaging effect to the degree that it did......upon those who learned of it.. when the 'generation change' occured in 94', i thought there would be a bigger fallout.
when the voting issue happened, i thought it would cause quite a stir.
with "dateline" and "fifth estate" uncovering child molestation issue among jehovah's witnesses....i thought many would fall out.. what gets me is the amount , that were effected by the u.n. scandle.
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Sassy
actually I think those DA'd are shunned with more contempt than those DF'd. It is like if you get DA'd, you have committed the unforgiveable sin... and it scares people, they are afraid if they come near you, they too might get that disease.
I have to admit, I didn't really hear much about the UN situation until after I got out. I actually need to understand it more clearly. To me, the difference between all the reasons people might leave, brought up in the first comment here is that they didn't explain in the local congregations anything about the UN situation. So if you didn't hear it from the outside, it really didn't effect you that much. Where as the child molestation investigations on Date Line, we had a part on the service meeting special to 'comfort us' and 'prepare us' when 'alligations' were attacked upon the WTS. So they set us up to not look at it as clearly, now looking back at it. As far as the generation change, well, we have always heard about how the 'light keeps getting brighter'... so.. some just chocked it up to that.. remember we were brainwashed, so you just flowed with the excuses...
I really think if I had understood more about the UN and their connection to it, I would have begun to doubt more. Just the fact that they refused to address it officially and explain it, tells me something. I wish someone would have told me that the bound volumes I had until I moved did not match the CDs because they changed past information. THAT is big to me, it is like the nations in history that erased the defeats that happened from their books... as if to take it from memory that such words were ever written.
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I'm back online! - and a letter to the elders
by dmouse insince the breakdown of my marriage i have been living round my mum's - .
hooray for mums everywhere, but especially mine!.
now, mum's not the most up to date person so no computer or internet.
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Sassy
I read through your letter and couldn't help but be reminded of the stress and tension when my first husband and I broke up. Its so sad that we were 'supposedly taught' how to have a happy family and yet look what the results are. I am concerned that your admittance about denying the religion and also attending a birthday party will give them enough to say you are DAing yourself, if that is not your intent.
This time will pass fortunately and better days will be ahead. At least you do not have to feel like your new life has to be 'within' the boundaries of the rules of the religion. I was married 19 yrs when I divorced my first husband and still stayed a JW and abided by the rules, rules which were not easy. It took me 8 more years to get smart and stop. I hope the next chapters of your life will bring you happiness you deserve.
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One More Elder who is starting to Question the WT
by sis in distress inhe told my husband ?i don?t care, i just need to know is this the truth or not?
i just don?t understand why.
once again i was asked a question that i could not answer.
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Sassy
Welcome to the board sis in distress! I totally relate to the comment by JT:
She doesn't like to post much as you can see from her less than 25 post--- because as she puts it "Folks DOG folks too much here"
this thread unfortunately took part of a turn in that direction and although I did not share their sentiments, I would like to apologise on behalf of the posters any way. I know you have a lot to contribute and think it would be a disapointment if
you did not share your wisdom and presence with us, even if it is not often. We hope, I hope, that you will continue to
stop in and say hey now and then.As far as the original direction of this thread, (which I am hoping we can get back to), I was thinking about it a lot last night.
When I chose to stop being a JW, I did so without the thought that it was the 'right' thing to do, it was just the thing "I had
to do". I thought with every fiber of me, that this was still the TRUE RELIGION and that I was dooming myself to death with
that choice. Over time, fortunately my eyes have opened. I can't begin to tell you how much it means to me to hear stories
about those who are STRONG in this religion and yet have their eyes open and see things and begin to doubt. It saddens
me, that so many of us wasted our years doing what we thought was right, but my heart is filled with good things when I
realize that there are solid reasons to know this is not at all what we were told it was. You see, it is one thing for me to stop
being a JW and do so for purely selfish reasons. I grew up in a divided household. We got to all the meetings but bible
studies and service were difficult. My father who was not a JW didn't want his family in service, and if he came home, the
bible study was to stop. It was hard to be 'strong' in the 'truth' in that environment and then I married a man who should
have been strong, but in the end was far from it and living a double life. I kept us both attending the meetings and it wasn't
easy. I have felt like my whole life being a JW was a struggle that I never was good enough at and so always kept trying,
always feeling unworthy. So I could blame myself for thinking because I wasn't strong enough spriritually, that perhaps was
why I could justify reasons not to be a JW. But when I see stories like you and JT, stories like this elder who obviously truly
cares about Jehovah and he cares enough to try to find a reason for the questions in all the brothers and sisters minds,
that speaks volumes to me. That gives me strength to believe in the fact I made the right choice to stop, even though I
lost one of my best friends and my mother in the process. It's one thing to stop for the wrong reason, but to find out
there are reasons for the good, in the long picture. That really helps.Thank you for sharing this with us Sis in Distress. Please keep us informed on what happens. I am thinking of this elder
and the stress he must be enduring with a heavy heart right now knowing that he wants answers to help those he cares
for and knowing even asking the questions will change his life and options.