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  She is Going to Talk to the Elders About My Questions...What Should I Expect?

  by HeyThere in

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  so one of my in-laws, a born in dub, started asking me questions about the issues i am having with the religion.

  so i told her, rather carefully, how i discovered all the child pedophile cases, went over some of the case details, explained it is occurring all over the world, so isn't just some random misunderstanding, but is widespread hiding of child sex u all abuse.

  she was horrified.

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  Jasper...He was inactive when we met and married and for our entire decade of marriage...just became active again this past year...So no, he didn't get in trouble. And in fact is now socializing with elders.
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  She is Going to Talk to the Elders About My Questions...What Should I Expect?

  by HeyThere in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so one of my in-laws, a born in dub, started asking me questions about the issues i am having with the religion.

  so i told her, rather carefully, how i discovered all the child pedophile cases, went over some of the case details, explained it is occurring all over the world, so isn't just some random misunderstanding, but is widespread hiding of child sex u all abuse.

  she was horrified.

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  Aunt Fancy: Thank you and you are right, they only have the control I give them. Fortunately I am pretty much their worst nightmare for a woman...intelligent, educated, and independent thinking (uh-oh!) They will never truly have me controlled...my primary concern is my husband. I want to limit any impact on him. I want to make sure that he doesn't get much back lash from my lack of faith. His whole family is basically dub. He is fully immersed. There is more here but that is for another day. But I have my reasons to try to avoid being marked as an apostate. They (the boe) love my husband. He is friends with most of them now. So they may just ignore me if I keep quiet.
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  She is Going to Talk to the Elders About My Questions...What Should I Expect?

  by HeyThere in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so one of my in-laws, a born in dub, started asking me questions about the issues i am having with the religion.

  so i told her, rather carefully, how i discovered all the child pedophile cases, went over some of the case details, explained it is occurring all over the world, so isn't just some random misunderstanding, but is widespread hiding of child sex u all abuse.

  she was horrified.

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  Smiddy...So far nothing but I am not sure she has spoken with the elders yet. However, my husband has. From what I understand he was trying to get answers to help me with my doubts so they have known for a couple weeks now that I have serious questions. Also, no field service this past month. I did just have major surgery so my absence is likely attributed to that by the majority...However I do expect to be marked at some point as I can't fake it like that. I believe in living authentically. I will still attend meetings with my husband to show support for him but that's it. I will be fine doing that even if I am shunned. In that regard, since my life has always been free of the wt until the past year, my life doesn't revolve around dubs...So there's that. But I almost welcome shunning so my husband can see...
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  God's Kingdom Rules!

  by HeyThere in

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  that book is just as insane as the others...and focuses on building why 1914 is the year, while glossing over the failed prophesies.

  yet, my husband thinks it answers many of the questions i had.

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  That book is just as insane as the others...and focuses on building why 1914 is the year, while glossing over the failed prophesies. Yet, my husband thinks it answers many of the questions I had.
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  Advice Needed

  by HeyThere in

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  so my situation is changing and i am trying to figure out the best way for me to handle this.

  i am an unbaptized publisher married to a dub who was inactive when we met and when we married and during the course of our marriage, and just went back active a year and a half ago.

  he is a full believing dub.

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  Thank you for all of the advice. I am still absorbing it all and trying to determine my course of action. I will respond more soon to answer some questions...
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  Advice Needed

  by HeyThere in

  1. watchtower
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  so my situation is changing and i am trying to figure out the best way for me to handle this.

  i am an unbaptized publisher married to a dub who was inactive when we met and when we married and during the course of our marriage, and just went back active a year and a half ago.

  he is a full believing dub.

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  Thanks tiger, I am prepared for it. I also have the benefit of not being vested in the hall and having most of my friends and family not dubs. Thank goodness. I really feel for all of those who had so much family in. My husband is the only one that can impact my life significantly.
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  Advice Needed

  by HeyThere in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so my situation is changing and i am trying to figure out the best way for me to handle this.

  i am an unbaptized publisher married to a dub who was inactive when we met and when we married and during the course of our marriage, and just went back active a year and a half ago.

  he is a full believing dub.

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  One more thing, the elders wife and daughter both were normal with me this week...So maybe a clean fade is possible?
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  Advice Needed

  by HeyThere in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so my situation is changing and i am trying to figure out the best way for me to handle this.

  i am an unbaptized publisher married to a dub who was inactive when we met and when we married and during the course of our marriage, and just went back active a year and a half ago.

  he is a full believing dub.

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  Oh, and with my in law she approached me because my husband had mentioned it to her, so she asked me what the article was and wanted me to tell her what I had discovered.
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  Advice Needed

  by HeyThere in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so my situation is changing and i am trying to figure out the best way for me to handle this.

  i am an unbaptized publisher married to a dub who was inactive when we met and when we married and during the course of our marriage, and just went back active a year and a half ago.

  he is a full believing dub.

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  I just want to clarify the only person. I freely spoke to was my husband...With my in law and the sister I study with it was posed as questions because of the article I read. Then I had a list of doctrine questions I had, which I shared with in law and study sister but all can be framed all answer seeking except my convos with husband...which I will stop. I told him today that we just shouldn't talk religion anymore...study sister is supposed to be researching stuff to answer my questions but I am done. I will go to the meetings to support my spouse and keep peace but even then if they start shunning me I want him to see it. If they mark me I want him to see it. He doesn't believe they will care.
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  Advice Needed

  by HeyThere in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so my situation is changing and i am trying to figure out the best way for me to handle this.

  i am an unbaptized publisher married to a dub who was inactive when we met and when we married and during the course of our marriage, and just went back active a year and a half ago.

  he is a full believing dub.

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  So my situation is changing and I am trying to figure out the best way for me to handle this. I am an unbaptized publisher married to a dub who was inactive when we met and when we married and during the course of our marriage, and just went back active a year and a half ago. He is a full believing dub. I was Ok participating in the religion but now that I know so many dirty secrets I am over it and will never be a dub. I can't even sit thru a talk or read a pub without seeing all the manipulation. And the clear brain washing of the members saddens me.

  I have been studying but want to stop. I plan on simply telling the sister I study with that I need time to consider my questions.

  One of my in-laws will be speaking to the elders about the issues I discussed with her relating to child sex u all abuse. She is very bothered by these things and was previously unaware. Also the donation change.

  My husband spoke with the cobe about my doubts. He wanted to see if the elder could help him help me understand.

  I want to withdraw my status as an unbaptized publisher but not be labeled an apostate. My thought was to say I need more time for study and respond "I am seeking God's answers." To any doctrine question they may ask. I just don't want to cause problems for my husband. What do you recommend?