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  one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

  by MissFit in

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  we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

  i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

  i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

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  Vidiot: lol... that discribed me in my active active days.

  come to think about it... that discribe my mom.

  My mom told me once that she felt bad that my sisters( who won't have anything to do with the JWs) might not make it thru Armageddon since its so close.

  But then she tells me that even though she would like to be with them in paradise, if they dont make it, she knows there will be plenty of other children that will need a mom. She can adopt them and have a chance to be a perfect mom.

  I was speechless.

  I have a hard time talking to my mom. She doesnt know I am fading , she lives in another state. (Besides the obvious state of denial.)
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  Slip Sliding Away :I went to a 1 day assembly-Why?

  by MissFit in

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  i have not attended anything jw related for over a year.... until last week when i went to our one day convention.. why you ask?.

  i can do what i want i'm a grown adult.. ok...ok...so my jw childhood friend who i have not seen forever, came by for a visit.. i mentally went through the check list:.

  is she pioneering and need extra time?.

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  Jaid: I can relate. I just wanted to keep the door opened. But i don't feel under any obligation to anti witness.

  I am glad you had a chance to catch up with old friends and family.

  I went home feeling lighter because I knew I was not under any obligation to apply anything I heard.
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  one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

  by MissFit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

  i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

  i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

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  Phizzy: good point. I think that is why there is such a strong push recently to appeal to emotions. The video about the resurrection comes to mind.

  And when you are born in- those emotional chains become an accessory. You wear it with pride. You think you are proving Satan a liar and indicating God by sitting out in the hall during a birthday party.

  You get patted on the head for reading a couple of highlighted sentences during the study.

  I remember the only positive attention I got was when I commented at the meetings or placed magazines.

  I remember as an "Elder's" daughter , the extra pressure we had to be a good example because it reflects on him. ( my dad , not Jehovah)

  As an adult, I struggled with the guilt of not serving Jehovah whole souled. Of marrying " out of the truth". So even though I was physically out it was because I did not feel worthy enough. I gave up. Then I would try again until my sense of inadequacy would kick in. I felt like I was betraying Jehovah.

  I was shocked here when I found out all the things I didn't know I didnt know. Once I understood that the things I thought were true, weren't, I was able to start shedding son e of those emotional shackles.
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  Slip Sliding Away :I went to a 1 day assembly-Why?

  by MissFit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have not attended anything jw related for over a year.... until last week when i went to our one day convention.. why you ask?.

  i can do what i want i'm a grown adult.. ok...ok...so my jw childhood friend who i have not seen forever, came by for a visit.. i mentally went through the check list:.

  is she pioneering and need extra time?.

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  Steve, I just hope she shows me the same love and acceptance she shows her own sisters.

  Rebel: I am done trying to convert or discovery people. That is what I spent most of my life doing.

  I am done looking over my shoulder, trying to be a good example, or worrying about what others think.

  I have a good idea where I stand with her.

  She has her own life with the JWs.
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  Bethel Rules

  by brotherdan in

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  this was brought up just in passing on another thread.

  but i wanted to see if there are any bethelites or ex bethelites that remember some of the crazy rules we had to follow when we were there..

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  MissFit

  Thanks for resurrecting this thread. What an eye opener.
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  Slip Sliding Away :I went to a 1 day assembly-Why?

  by MissFit in

  1. jw
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  i have not attended anything jw related for over a year.... until last week when i went to our one day convention.. why you ask?.

  i can do what i want i'm a grown adult.. ok...ok...so my jw childhood friend who i have not seen forever, came by for a visit.. i mentally went through the check list:.

  is she pioneering and need extra time?.

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  Boc: wow, how did you manage that?

  Clarity :Thanks. I liked your post. It is important that we dont let anyone pressure us into doing or not doing something.
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  Slip Sliding Away :I went to a 1 day assembly-Why?

  by MissFit in

  1. jw
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  i have not attended anything jw related for over a year.... until last week when i went to our one day convention.. why you ask?.

  i can do what i want i'm a grown adult.. ok...ok...so my jw childhood friend who i have not seen forever, came by for a visit.. i mentally went through the check list:.

  is she pioneering and need extra time?.

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  Onthewayout: good points. The thing is as her friend would never ask her unless it was an emergency because I already know her priorities. But I have seen her miss meeting for family obligations.

  Though you do make a valid point. I never realized how inconsiderate and self involved JWs are when it comes to working around other peoples lives.
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  one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

  by MissFit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

  i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

  i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

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  MissFit

  I am really enjoying reading everyone's posts. Thank you for sharing.

  It really is different process for everyone. I really think the emotional chains are the hardest to break.

  Flipper: you are right. It so important to learn the facts and research the evidence.
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  Slip Sliding Away :I went to a 1 day assembly-Why?

  by MissFit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have not attended anything jw related for over a year.... until last week when i went to our one day convention.. why you ask?.

  i can do what i want i'm a grown adult.. ok...ok...so my jw childhood friend who i have not seen forever, came by for a visit.. i mentally went through the check list:.

  is she pioneering and need extra time?.

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  MissFit

  Hi everyone. Sorry for not responding earlier. Was working.

  Thanks forc all of your comments.

  To those of you who have "been there, done that" I'm glad you could relate. Thanks for your support.

  Blondie: you are right, she probably could still count the time. But I wasn't an after thought. You know...when they are out in service and they have a few minutes to kill, they stop at someone's house to finish up their time.

  I realize and have fully accepted that we will never have the same relationship we had. I know in her way that visit was an act of love on her part. I was her at one time. I also know her she is loyal to her sisters who did not stay in.
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  Slip Sliding Away :I went to a 1 day assembly-Why?

  by MissFit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have not attended anything jw related for over a year.... until last week when i went to our one day convention.. why you ask?.

  i can do what i want i'm a grown adult.. ok...ok...so my jw childhood friend who i have not seen forever, came by for a visit.. i mentally went through the check list:.

  is she pioneering and need extra time?.

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  MissFit

  I have not attended anything JW related for over a year...

  Until last week when I went to our one day convention.

  WHY you ask?

  Why not? I say.

  I can do what I want I'm a grown adult.

  ok...ok...so my JW childhood friend who I have not seen forever, came by for a visit.

  I mentally went through the check list:

  Is she pioneering and need extra time?

  (No service clothes on- just casual)

  A family crisis perhaps?

  *No tears, seems cheerful.)

  She loves me, she really loves me!!!

  After some small talk, she smiles real big and sweet and says: I have a sandwich all packed for you for lunch tomorrow at the assembly. I'll save a seat for you.

  You'll be there right?

  Yeah, i'm a grown up and can do what I want.

  I went. Why? What happens there doesnt matter to me any more.

  But spending some time with my friend does matter to me.