Posts by Shakita

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Ways to get you back

by shera in

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have some jw's who you were close to,try to get you back to the meetings?what did they do?.

one woman i knew..tried to make me feel guilty with letters...saying it was like i stabbed her in the gut.she also gave me, my pictures back,of myself and my daughter.yeh thats a winner.just last year she gave someone i know..pictures i drew back to me, as well ,other pics of my daughter that were hanging around her house.. yeh sure,thats gonna win me over.

Shakita

shera:

Since my husband and I stopped going to meetings last spring, we have had about 3 visits at our home. First visit was from a couple who we have cared for since becoming JW's many years ago. They have helped us out many times through the years. I can honestly say that I still care for these people very much. Second visit was the same couple coming to say how much they "missed us." We know that they really DO miss us. And, we miss them, too. When they were here, they never pushed us or questioned us about returning. Just tried to encourage us to return to the meetings. The third visit was by two sisters who were the daughters of the above mentioned couple. I have nothing but good things to say about these two women. They are kind and considerate and have been there for me through some very bad times. You see, I don't have all bad memories of the JW life that we had led. Tonight, I just saw one of these women in the store. She was very kind and we talked at some length about our kids, etc.... I hold no animosity toward these people. Well, there are some I do have to control myself talking about. But, my argument is not with the JW's themselves. My problem comes from the insane rules and cruel way the organization has with dealing with its members. And how the members are manipulated to believe everything this organization says. I miss my friends. But when I decided to not support this organization of lies, I knew that there would be sacrifices that would have to be made. You cannot live a lie. You cannot perpetuate a lie. Or your life becomes a lie.

Well, now that I have gotten depressed,

I think I will go eat some chocoate........

Mrs. Shakita

10

I love this

by Iwasyoungonce in

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i think that everyone should see this at least once in thier life.. i love this, love.

love.

love it.

Shakita

That was really phenomenal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Something to look at after a real bad day!

Sort of felt like I was being hypnotized........

Anddddddd......youuuuuuuu areeeeeee gettingggggggg sleepyyyyyyyyyyy............

Now I will snap my fingers, and you will return to reality!

I think I will go back and look at it again!

Thanks for a nice post

Mrs. Shakita(who just loves beautiful sunsets)

14

were you scared to become an apostate?

by shera in

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when i fisrt left the organization,i was always full of duobt that it was the truth.i can remember ,becoming an apostate,was the unforgivable sin.for about 10 years i wouldnot "say"the "religion"was untrue and full of lies.even tho i was never going to go back.ater i have heard a lot of the "b.s" about this so called religion,was i peaceful saying this was lies.. i am now a proud apostate.

Shakita

Hi shera:

Apostate: definition-"a dog returning to it's vomit."

This was repeatedly drummed into my head all the years I was a JW. The first time I heard this was from a woman in the hall who was describing her (fleshly)sister who returned to the Catholic Church after leaving the JW organization. I was shocked. At the time I thought that was a horrible thing to say. But I was just studying. When I became indoctrinated, I (just like all the assimilated) agreed with the dog's vomit scripture. Now, of course, that verse just turns my stomach! Now, I see the DOG as the JW's and the VOMIT as the rules from the WTBS. The dog is always returning to the vile vomit that the WTBS throws up for its members to swallow!!!!!!!

I think I'll go have a snack now

Shakita

23

Have You Ever Had To Tell Someone They STINK???

by minimus in

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when i was a young pioneer, reaching out for ministerial servant, i was asked by the elders to talk to a fellow pioneer (and m.s.

) about his hygiene.

quite frankly, he smelled.

Shakita

OMG minimus, what a post!

In all my years as a JW, I never had to counsel anyone on their BODYODOR!

Of course, I was a lowly female. Counsel that important was usually left to the brothers to handle! I think I do remember a scripture dealing with not offending your brothers by smelling like a rotting onion!

You know who should have been counseled were the women who would pile on the perfume like there was no tomorrow!!!!! God, I remember sitting there feeling faint from the pungent odor eminating from the old JW sister in front of me!

Mrs. Shakita

13

Need help with a few questions please

by rejoice in

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i lived next door to a jw for 3 years and we became very good friends although it was often a strained relationship.

i would read the books and even listen to the tapes from kh she gave me but, when i had questions or showed an opinion she would become so angry.

i was reared a southern baptist and still am today and claim jesus christ as my savior through his grace.

Shakita

Rejoice:

You ask about the division among families in the JW organization. The JW religion isn't unique in dividing up families along religious lines. Families generally want their children to continue on in their own specific religion, to continue worshipping their God/Gods the way they choose, to continue with traditional family holiday's shared together, and to keep the family closeknit. So, when children decide to not share in their parents beliefs, and the parents can't understand why, there are problems that will follow. The difference between the JW religion and these others is the horrible shunning and disfellowshipping of their members. Hence, cutting them off from beloved mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, children, etc...... In all my years as a witness, I have never heard of a witness family who did not have at least one member of their extended family who was marked(another form of shunning), shunned, or disfellowshipped. This practice that is forced upon the members of the JW religion is unscriptural and heartless. They enforce this practice of shunning and disfellowshipping to shut those members off from the rest of the congregation. If they can do this, they make it impossible for any one who knows the truth about this organization to make contact with anyone on the inside. There are so many examples families destroyed by this heartless excuse of a religion.

If you have been here for awhile already, you know the pain that alot of people on this board have endured because of the shunning and disfellowshipping from friends and family members. If not, and you would like to find out more about it, there are numerous sites you can go to. One is Freeminds, you can click on it at the bottom of this page.

Take care.

Mrs. Shakita

44

My DA Letter

by LB in

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i thought about writing "i quit" but it got a little wordier than i expected.

but i'm sending this off monday morning.

i've used a little info gathered here on this site but mostly it's my thoughts.

Shakita

Very nice letter. It comes from the heart. I think it was wise not to stuff a whole lot of doctrinal issues in it. They don't care anyhow. It's just a waste of time.

My husband and I are doing the fading thing for now. We still have a daughter and her husband in. We don't want her to have the dreaded elders on her case. Don't know what the future will hold for our family. I guess we will just go with the flow. Deal with whatever comes our way when it does come. I have a funny feeling it won't be too long before we get a little visit by the gestapo.

I hope everything goes well with your son, and your future is full of only good things.

Mrs. Shakita

10

proof of a "higher power"?

by Shakita in

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i spoke with my brother on the phone last night.

he lives in houston, texas and just loves it down there.

he lived in nj most of his life, but now would never live anywhere else but in the great state of texas!.

Shakita

Tinkerbell:

Life can be so hard. You seem like you are a very strong person to get through so much heartache. It seems like there are many stories out there similar to my families.

Your last paragraph is exactly where I am. When I was a JW, all my answers were provided for me. I didn't have to think. Only repeat. Now that I am out, I have nothing but questions. I guess I try too hard to find the right and logical answer for each and every question. Maybe I have to accept that I will not find EVERY answer I look for. Then, maybe, I will find the peace that I search for in my heart.

Thank you for your thoughtful post.

Buster:

Barry Manilow IS God! How else could you explain his popularity?

Mrs. Shakita

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Why do JW's allow wedding rings?

by Gopher in

recently we had a post where a non-jw asked what to expect at his jw's wedding.

he was told not to expect certain things that have a pagan background such as rice-tossing or the bride throwing a corset to the virgins unmarried girls at the reception.. but somehow wedding rings are allowed at jw weddings!.

any idea why?.

Shakita

My daughter was just married and "brother officiate" asked them during the rehearsal IF they would like to exchange rings during the ceremony. Obviously, this is totally optional.

Mrs. Shakita

10

Happy Anniversary!!!

by Shakita in

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happy anniversary to a very special couple!

for mr. and mrs. ashitaka .

hope you guys have a great anniversary!

Shakita

Sorry everybody. Wanted to surprise Ashi and wife with a bouquet of balloons. Guess I'm just not that computer literate. If I can figure it out, I will repost them.

It's the thought that counts!

10

proof of a "higher power"?

by Shakita in

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i spoke with my brother on the phone last night.

he lives in houston, texas and just loves it down there.

he lived in nj most of his life, but now would never live anywhere else but in the great state of texas!.

Shakita

Thanks for the book recommendation Francois. I will look it up.

What is interesting in my brother's case is that he was not the one with the "near death experience." He was just an observer to it. Anyone ever hear of this?

Mrs. Shakita