I think most JWs nowadays realize that divorce rates are really not that much lower for dubs than for society overall. I have even heard speakers at assemblys acknowledging that divorce rates among JWs are rising.
JStalin, JWs are not DFd for getting a divorce. They are DF'd if they commit fornication(which will likely result in a divorce at the same time) or if they divorce and then remarry without having scriptural grounds for the divorce.
IMHO, JWs attitude towards separation and divorce have loosened up considerably over the last decade or so. They are much less self-righteous about having better marriage rates than worldly people, and divorce, while still not overly condoned, doesn't carry quite the stigma it once did among them.
I heard a sad story a while back from my wife. She ran into an old pioneer partner. Apparently this sister's elder husband was unhappy and wanted a divorce. She agreed to the divorce, but since he was afraid of losing his precious position, he asked her to be the one to actually file for divorce. So she does, they get the divorce. No one is DF'd, he is still an elder, but since she filed, she is now under 'restrictions' - permanently. They are both still active dubs, both unmarried, he continues to be an elder, every couple years he writes her to ask if he is free to remarry( the answer of course, no).
How screwed up is that?? First of all, how can someone be on restrictions "permanently"? Its not like she can "repent" and un-divorce him. And of course the idea that she takes the fall when he is the one that wanted out in the first place is boggling, along with the fact that she accepts this and continues to be a brain-dead dub.
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