Well guys, yet again I am blown away by the support and good advice that I have seen here... I am telling you there is more love on this board then I have ever felt in any kingdom hall!
I have some to two conclusions:
1) I am going to send a card and some flowers to my grandmother,
2) I am going to write a letter to my parents explaining how very difficult it was for me to receive their letter. I am going to tell them that I have no interest in "returning to the fold" and that by reminding me what I am missing out on they are only further convincing me how disgusting this cult-like organization is.
3) I am also going to send a congratulations to my sister and express my grief in not being able to share this special say with her.
Thank you again for your support and suggestions and I will let you know what happens next!!