I live here with my elderly parents. My Dad is in his seventies and my Mom is in her sixties. I don't really in a way consider them elderly, but I guess others perceive them that way. They wouldn't be able to make it alone without me living here with them.
Anyway, when I got home from work today, I had a letter in with my other mail. It had a return address, but no name indicating who it came from. It was a registered letter. My Mom said my Dad signed for it. I knew when I saw it was a registered letter what it was going to be about. A JC meeting. I have been "inactive" since 1996. No elders have come to talk to me or have called in all that time. The only reason they now feel a need to do this is because I am pregnant, and single. No one where I work knows I was JW. Not one of my friends are JW's. Just because I made the mistake of getting baptized when I was a teenager is this happening.
They had tried to "contact" me the letter says, but I have ignored them. Actually, I did talk to the elder who called the first time and when he asked if I would meet with "him," I had said yes. Then he said, "Ok, WE WILL see you Sunday. I was like, "Huh?" Thought you said YOU, wanted to talk to me. I told them to just do whatever it is they that had to do. Repeatedly. That was like 2 or 3 months ago. Then I guess they got too busy with the DC, and the CO's visit, that I was put on the backburner for awhile. My Dad actually told them, when they had approached them about talking to me, where they have been all this time and why it wasn't important to talk to me years ago but that it is now. It ticked me off when they upset him like that. He has heart problems. I respect my parent's beliefs, and they respect that I no longer go to meetings. It just makes me mad that now they want to do this because of "appearances." I am just wondering about DA'ing myself. I never did do it before because of my family ties and because I, personally, just thought it gave them "power." Like you still have to answer to them just because you changed your mind about something. Is DA'ing one's self worse to a JW then being DF'd? I know that my parents will still talk to me after either, so I am not worried about that.
I am not going to their meeting. It's the same day as my baby shower. I am just considering writing my own registered letter.