Ok so some of you may know that I just divorced a man who has been a deadbeat dad to our son from the very start. I left him shortly after we found out I was prego for several reasons including his not desiring to be there for me as I was scared and newly pregnant, he would rather continue to be an alchoholic loser, out all the time to the bars or in some chics bed or whatever.
So he has not paid ANY of the ordered child support (my son is almost a year old) he never showed up to any of our divorce hearings. One of which child support was ordered, I informed the judge at that time that my ex had told myself and others that he was making $1,000 per week and since my ex was not there to prove otherwise, that was the order that was made. My ex says that I lied about how much $ he made and so its a phoney child support order and thats why he doesnt pay because that amount is impossible for him to reach. So therefore it is MY fault that he doesnt pay it. Mind you he has only seen our son a couple of times in the last 7-8 months and that was when I initiated the contact (guess thats my fault too)
So I dont talk to him anymore he tries to contact me occasionally, so last nite I got the following messages to my messenger service:
(9:05:28 PM): happy now !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(9:05:49 PM): u r a bitch
(9:22:05 PM): but its cool ...the courts will find out how bad you lied...real soon
(9:22:40 PM): this is far from over
Ok, so Im like wtf!? So I called the child support agency to see what happened and they said that there was a hearing yesterday which my ex and his lawyer appeared by phone. Which is nice that he can now afford a lawyer but not daipers or food for his son...wonderful! So I was told that the judge sentenced him to 6 months in jail but he stayed the sentence pending his payment of the support. So if he doesnt pay support by july then they will issue a warrant.
So here is my thing what makes the judge think that after so long, all the sudden he will pay? This is in Milwaukee county, the largest county in the state, they dont go after these guys, there are too many of them, it will just be a bench warrant and as long as he stays out of police contact they will never catch up with him. I have NO reason to think that he will pay up so basically I think he will just get away with being the deadbeat that he is.
My ? is do any of you think that this is fair to have given hime even MORE time to start paying? Hasnt it been long enough, I mean if he hasnt shown any effort by now why would he? Not to mention that he owes me over $6,000 allready for support. The judge isnt making him come up with any of that until who knows when since he doesnt have a job, which acttually is not true, he is getting paid under the table and working without a lisence which he needs to be doing what he's doing. Should I report him?
Has anyone gone through a similar experience?
Im just really upset right now and need some support. Thank you for all of you who took the time to read this, your thoughts on the matter will be much appreciated!
-April