Hello,
This may take a while to explain, but if you read through and respond I'd appreciate it. I became best friends with a JW about two years ago. We were the best of friends. At the same time I also became very close to my half sister that I never really knew. Eventually as fate would have it, the two of them met and when I saw them around each other, I knew they'd be more then just friends. They grew closer and i grew further, from them both. About 6-8 mths into the relationship they began to disscuss marriage. Things were very akward between us three, i was mad at them both.They were my only friends and they wanted nothing to do with me, and when they did they wouldn't even pay attention to me. Once they made me wait on the porch while they...well I think you know. He also would use my house as a place to meet her, and he'd tell his parents he was just going to my house. I guess he wasn't allowed to be in a non jw relationship. Things went on like this for a while and i felt terrible about myself, I felt used. In a way I was happy for them though, especially my sister. She had been in a number of bad relationships. My plan was to just let them be but things finally came to a head about 6 mths ago. I finally told them what i thought about them, what they were doing,everything. That's when my sister told me she had been going to church with him and his family, and she had been studying with some lady for a few mths. I did'nt know a thing about jw's except that it's diffrent from what i believe in some ways. I am a protestant christian, in case you wondered. She was too. He also had a lot of problems, thet i tried to warn her about. such as drugs, alcohol and some other things rhat i dont need to go into. She told me that she could not believe what i was saying and that I didn't know her or him, that i'd never understand, and that she did not care to see me or my family any more (to clear up any confusion, she does not live at my house). I have seen her a few times since and him once. Both of them were very arrogant and wouldn't even look at me (in the eyes). My father still keeps in touch with her, but i think she is rude to him. for example she did not wish him happy fathers day or invite him to her graduation. Him and his family attended however. My birthday was last week and she didin't even call or send a card, nothing. I really didn't expect anything but this reinforces my theroy that she is full on jw (not celebrating holidays). My dad has asked her some questions and this is what we know so far.
She still considers herself a christian
She does want to marry him
His dad was asked to step down as an elder
She just went to some convention with them
They tell her it's the same thing
From what I know, you don't believe in the trinity. Thats about all I know, but a significant diffrence as that is one of the focal points to what I believe. I would also like to know why some of you are no longer jw's. I read a few posts, but could not obtain much info. My last question is, if they are still sneaking around (sleeping together)is there people watching them, or spying. oh, and in your honest opinions, do you think that she is a jw based on what i've said? She tells my dad other wise but i just can't believe that. Please tell me as much as possible. I'd like to know as much as I can about what your beliefs are etc.
sorry that took so long, but thanks for reading