My two brothers and I have talked about this very thing (they are out now, too) and we all agree that not being able to participate in any of the extracurricular things significantly hurt our self-esteem.
I know what you mean. It's like your whole life you're told- That stuff is not for you, that's for other children.
The funniest thing happened today. I signed up for a step aerobics class at the Y. It was supposed to be held in the gym but when I went there, no one was there. So I thought maybe they switched rooms and it is being held in the aerobic studio. So I looked through the window and sure enough there were people in there. Right next to everyone on the floor was this little step bench looking thing and everyone was holding a big exercise ball. So I just thought that the step aerobics class was doing something a little different, it was my first time and I didn't know what to expect and I was late walking in.
Come to find out, I had walked in on a pilates class. I looked around for the instructor and didn't see anyone who "looked" like a teacher. So when a lady started talking and asking me if I needed a mat and ball I was shocked to see this lady. This woman had love handles and when she bent over you could see a roll sticking out with a tatoo of some sort on it. Any normal person in the class I wouldn't care what they looked like. But the instructor should at least be fit!!!
Now... am I being superficial by thinking that the instructor should be in better shape than I am?
Anyways, I'm not going to take that class again because it cost alot more than my step class did. And the step class was cancelled. I want to take another class but I don't want to take a water class because then I'll be with all old people. I don't want to take a strength training class because it will be with all buff guys. Hey what am I saying?..... Well... I think for now I'll just get my money back and do my dvd class. But I thought that was funny, about who they got for the instructor. It made me feel better about myself and really isn't that the reason you should exercise?!! So I guess in an odd way it did help.