For those who choose to fade, leaving your old congregation is often a first step. Did you switch congos while stll in "Good Standing" (tm)? If so, did the local JWs try to give you a going away party? Did you accept?
We were in the same congo for well over 10 years. I had served as an elder for most of that time. Raised our kids there. I learned TTATT about 2.5 years before my wife did. As soon as the blinders came off for her my first move was to "step aside" as an elder. A couple months later, we decided to switch congos. Since there was no obvious external reason for our move (job change, aging parents, being asked to move to help a different congo, etc.) the local JWs probably took our decision as a bit of a "screw you". Therefore, no one organized a "going away" party for us. On the one hand, it hurt a little bit, but overall, we're glad we didn't have to put on fake smiles and deal with a couple hours of nosy questions.
How about you?