A man runs over your dog because he hates dogs. Your dog doesn't die. You take your dog to the vet and the vet puts him to sleep.
Both men made an effort to kill your dog. The dog would end up dead either way. But, it matters to you the motivating force behind the death of your dog.
Stop and think about it.
You pay one man to kill your dog and you are grateful to him.
You despise the other man who was willing to do it for free.
It is certainly obvious to any thinking person that the context here is all important.
Often, the thought behind our deed is more important than the result of our doing it!
In a court of law we actually attempt to reveal the state of one's mind behind an event which leads to harm. The resulting discovery alters the legal penalty before a judge and jury. Malice is bad. Intention is everything.
Remember, however, the same harm has been done either way.
Religion has stated purposes and fixed beliefs. The people who harm themselves and others for religious reasons are acting out of purpose and not malice. But, the harm is real.
So too, persons criticising (bashing) religion often offend and hurt the feelings of religious people. The harm is there whether the intention to hurt lies behind it or not.
What is the sound course?
Each of us, to be moral, must be consistent with the truth of our values and act vigorously in speaking out for what is true and right and just. However, we must be willing to pay the price when this turns out to be in error, wrong-headed and downright fallacious.
To refrain from speaking out is a form of participation in evil. But, it is a sword with an edge that cuts both ways.
?Are we right? That is something we must test constantly. That is richly provided in this forum. Our ideas, opinions, prejudices and ethics are tested for soundness. We must own up or change to be moral.