Dear Steve, since our last study together at our home I have had a few perplexing questions concerning the lunches and other communications with my wife Pat while I was left at home, along with my never being asked to participate notwithstanding of who is paying for the meal; besides being her husband and head.
I have wanted to send this letter of inquiry concerning this matter, because it has weighed heavy on my mind, and also in view of the fact that Don said at my door earlier with the other fellow that was with him, that you really liked me. I feel you are a very good teacher as I mentioned to you on the phone as well as a wise man, so it is in this spirit that I have sent this letter to you.
After the last lunch that you and your wife had with my wife that was at lest two or three in number, me and my wife discussed why the questionings and mysterious arrangements that were apart from me appeared to be planed that way?
Ever since that time I have mulled it over in my mind even at times waking up at night wondering just why there were these coordinated lunches to discuss studying or possibly other subjects, when I would never have restricted my wife?s desire to study even if I do have misgivings concerning some congregational policies. Do you really feel it would have been unwise to come to my house to discuss the matters you felt were important, with my wife as well as me?
In conclusion I should have been present at those arranged for meetings or lunches as my wife related to me the substance of what was said, with most situations like that it would have caused much strife between husband and wife. My wife though not being raised a Jehovah?s Witness, instinctively recognized her place in connection with the headship principal, this is very rare in or out of the Jehovah?s Witness?s organization and for that I am thankful to her, she never ceases amazing me in this regard. I find it difficult to accept that Jehovah through Christ Jesus would approve of usurping a man and women?s relationship put in place by Jehovah himself.
I have observed the harmonious relationship you and your wife have; it was refreshing to see, I know it could be no other way with out causing great stress to both of you, I wish you could have allotted us that same dignity.
You may contact me if desired concerning the matter related above through electronic mail that is listed above or US mail, rather than bringing intimidating members to my door even though this may be organizational policy, it is still stressful to me and my health that I will not accept.
Lewis S. Draney