Here's my situation:
I have four children (10,7,6,4). My wife (now ex-wife) and I were not getting along very well five years ago. She was continuously going out to a 19-20 year-old type of bar and insisted that I not come.
Shortly after my 4 year-old was born she told me that she was not mine. She said it while we were in an argument, so I was leaning towards believing her when she said it was only said to "piss me off". Then, within a couple of months, she said it again. This was in a regular discussion, not said out of anger. Later, she tried to suggest that she only said it because I kept "bugging her" by asking for the truth.
Regardless of her thoughts/actions...... it leaves me not knowing if my youngest daughter is my child or not.
For all the men out there, what would you do? I hope not too many people have experienced this first hand, but if you have, please tell me what you did and how it worked out.
For all the women, assuming you were a mean person like my ex , which I am sure none here are , what would you think would be reasonable for your spouse to do? I guess you may have to make two choices... 1) what if your spouse/ex-spouse is not the Daddy.... and ....2) you only ever said it to piss him off..... what would you do to make amends?
I say make amends because, in all honesty, this was a very painful thing for me to go through and my ex-wife's lack of acceptance of her responsibility was the main reason that I made the choice to leave her for good.
By the way, none of my children know ANYTHING about this.