Elders I have known who are told about such a situation where a person is getting the short end of the stick are told to consider David and how it was unfair when Saul was trying to kill him and he had to flee to Philistia. David waited until God "adjusted" Saul rather than taking matters into his own hands and fighting against God's "anointed."
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w00 6/15 pp. 13-14 Honor the Ones Given Authority Over You/Respect Despite Imperfection8
There are many examples in the Bible of those who honored individuals in authority, even when these misused or abused their authority. David was one such fine example. King Saul, under whom he served, became jealous of David?s achievements and sought to kill him. (1 Samuel 18:8-12; 19:9-11; 23:26) Still, though having opportunities to kill Saul, David said: "It is unthinkable, on my part, from Jehovah?s standpoint, to thrust my hand out against the anointed of Jehovah!" (1 Samuel 24:3-6; 26:7-13) David knew that Saul was in the wrong, but he left it up to Jehovah to judge him. (1 Samuel 24:12, 15; 26:22-24) He did not speak abusively of or to Saul.
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Was David distressed while he was being mistreated? "There are . . . tyrants that do seek my soul," David cried out to Jehovah. (Psalm 54:3) He poured out his heart to Jehovah: "Deliver me from my enemies, O my God . . . Strong ones make an attack upon me, for no revolt on my part, nor any sin on my part, O Jehovah. Though there is no error, they run and get themselves ready. Do rouse yourself at my calling and see." (Psalm 59:1-4) Have you ever felt the same way?that you had done no wrong to a person in authority, yet he kept giving you a hard time? David did not fail to show respect to Saul. Upon Saul?s death, instead of exulting in joy, David composed a dirge: "Saul and Jonathan, the lovable ones and the pleasant ones during their life . . . Swifter than the eagles they were, mightier than the lions they were. You daughters of Israel, weep over Saul." (2 Samuel 1:23, 24) What a fine example of genuine respect for the anointed of Jehovah, even though David had been wronged by Saul!
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w99 8/15 pp. 8-9 Keep Anger From Stumbling You ***Contrast such dispositions with that of David, who had reason to be angry over the treatment he experienced from Saul. David restrained his spirit. Why? He said: "It is unthinkable, on my part, from Jehovah?s standpoint, that I should do this thing to my lord, the anointed of Jehovah." David had clearly in mind his relationship with Jehovah, and it affected his dealings with Saul. He humbly left matters in Jehovah?s hands.?1 Samuel 24:6, 15.