BB, good points. False guilt needs to be specifically addressed like you say... I just find it hard to not see a bigger picture.
I don't recall Jesus condemning acts of kindness at any time--even on the sabbath, where any work was traditionally forbidden. Jesus said that God has a strong preference for kindness over self-denial; also notice that Jesus called innocent the very ones the pharisees had condemned for picking grain:
Matt 12:7 If you had known what these words mean, `I desire mercy , not sacrifice ' you would not have condemned the innocent.
RO 8:1 Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, 2 because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death.
Hope these will help alleviate that false guilt, emma.