Hi All, I hope I'm posting this in the right subject area:
Had a "discussion" with my ex the other day, in which I asked him to stop telling our son that birthdays/pumpkins/santa and whatever else were "bad" as he was more or less telling our son that my beliefs are wrong. He's JW and I'm not. Of course he says he's only teaching him "truth from the bible" I asked him to point out to me where in the blble it says you can't celebrate these things, he couldn't.
But he came up with some interesting comments, thought I'd throw them out there for an opinion so I can go back & ask him about them. Before I start, this is a man who was out of the cult for awhile (hence our son) and decided the pressure was too much, got back in and immediately got married & is now expecting another child. Together the 2 of them are trying to put on the "perfect family" show and teaching my son there is no other way than theirs. Needless to say, I'm not happy about this.
First off...I reminded him that before our son was born we discussed why he wouldn't be raised a JW and that we would expose him to both our religions (this is before I knew anything about it)....I told him that I didn't want him ramming the JW down his throat so that he would feel that was the only way he could be....his response?
"I wouldn't do that, if he decides to be a Catholic, that's ok with me"
Second...I asked him how he could try to raise our son as JW when I wasn't of that "faith" as that would require our son to believe that we (me and his sister and our side of the family) would be "murdered by God" and we were basically to be ignored, etc as we were not of "the truth" and should be treated as such. He shook his head & got a little offronted & said "Oh no, I would never do that, it's his decision" He said the same thing about having him baptised, said he would never do that, in fact looked like he'd just sucked on a whole lemon when I mentioned it.
Those are things that stick out the most that I remember of our conversatoin. Everything I've read on the JW religion leads me to believe he is full of it. ( Heck, everything he says anymore leads me to believe that, but that's not the issue right now.) Am I wrong to think that he's full of it??
I was able to throw my limited understanding of the JW ways back at him regarding these 2 specific items, and I must say, he was shocked, he certainly wasn't prepared for it (felt kinda nice to see the reaction! ) but I need some possible guidance for any future interraction with him.