Nancy, to some extent, is in denial and suffers from stockholm syndrome. She does not want to have anything to do with the religion, she is clear on that, but the desire to have her mother's love blinds her to the distinctions she needs to accept. Therapy is helping.
She cares alot about C, and I hope seeing him go through the same things will awaken her and get her to reach out more confidently. I hope that she will see the bigger picture and realize what my other two daughters have come to accept, namely, that mother's love, right now, is indistiguishable from the religion. The two are so tangled together that they cannot be separated. The other two have come to accept that to give up "the truth" is the same as giving up mom's love and they go on carrying the scars but happily living their lives without the abuse. But those terms are layed out by the mom and the WTBTS. For them is far better.
C has much to go through still, and I am hoping Nancy will soon come to the point where she can confidently take him by the hand and really support him with all of her knowledge and experience.
C has always worked in his elder-dad's business (auto glass i think). His father is constantly angry at C and yelling and hitting him. C recently told his elder-dad that he does not want to work with him anymore, but dad will not let C go out and get a job anywhere else. He is only permitted to work with other bros who have their own businesses. This is definitely a control tactic to insulate C from the real world and keep in inside the org. I told Nancy that if worse comes worse, C could come and stay with us until he gets on his feet and can take care of himself. I meant that. God, how I wish I could open some kind of facility for JW teens to go to for shelter and protection from the religious persecution and emotional abuse of their parents, one that offers counselling and mandates structured visits with their kids and mandatory family counselling . . . which is my ultimate aim.
Corvin
