And, yes, a loving supportive family can be important when a little girl is developing her self image. However, her peers are a thousand times more powerful and one negative comment can erase a thousand compliments from family.
Sadly, that is so true. I've had to work hard to convince her that the opinion of a jealous six year old girl shouldn't affect how she feels about herself. Just because Janie said it, doesn't make it true. I have been able to get it across to her that the thousands of compliments she gets from complete strangers should make her realize the girls are trying to make her feel bad and are jealous of something. Zoe loves to dress up. I buy her nice clothes because it's important to her and I can afford it. Some of the girls in school come from families that can't afford the clothes that Zoe has so they find ways to get back at her...chipping away at her self esteem seems to work. It's an ongoing battle. Her best friend is a 9 year old third grader and it seems to really help. They are on different levels so there is no competition between them.